irc333 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Something I've noticed as of late. I was on a couple of dating sites, I dropped one though....and I'm a non-subscriber to Match.com... I don't even have a real profile up on that site though, no pic....just browsing aruond. I'm noticing A LOT of the SAME faces within the 50 mile radius I'm seeking. (Though some new faces tend to come here and there) I'm not sure if anyone has heard of the Meetup website, it's a place where you can actually meet people in real time with similar interests at an actual location to do the activity (like bowling, hiking, mtn biking, etc). Unfortantely, the ones that you find on dating sites most often never go to the real time events. I often wonder if they just check out the RSVP list of those going to "Movie Night" and make their decision on who is going or not depending on the picture (if any cute guys or women are going, they'll go, if not, they'll stay home). They seem to not want to enjoy the actual activity, unless someone "cute" is there. THis reminds me of a story where a woman I knew of (from real life) said she had an online date scheduled, and he bailed at the last min. then she sees him ONLINE that very night. She was totally ticked. The point of this post is, do people just enjoy staying home instead of going out to meet singles? Another question, if you KNEW who was attending an event BEFORE the event, would you base your decision on going depending on how "cute" the crowd was? I'm starting to think that online dating sites are blending into real life somehow. That it might even be taking away the "real world" experience by keeping us disconnected. It seems people want to know before hand if it's worth doing something depending on some superficial expectation, as opposed to enjoying life and the experience itself. It seems fellowship isn't important to anyone. Know what I mean?
Emilia Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 from reading your previous posts I'm guessing you live in a small town so I know you don't have many opportunities to meet women in real life, that's why you are using online dating. a lot of people however that are online are just not really that outgoing or don't have great social skills. they rather sit at home than go out. I have joined meetup groups as well, I am a member of some that I mean to use but I'm really busy with one of them: we go surfing almost weekly and have monthly pub drinks. in my experience if people are into an activity they will keep organising stuff otherwise they just click on 'join' and never bother turning up. there are about 400 members in our surf group, I'd say about 10% are active. just join a few groups that you like the look of, keep going to activities and you will meet someone you click with sooner or later. if you find groups where you really enjoy yourself it will increase the chances of meeting women you have a lot in common with
Mrlonelyone Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I see where you are coming from on the idea that all of this artificial communication is taking away real human connections. In particular when it comes to online dating. I have been reading another message board on this and the same complaint turns up. People who will set a date, bail or just no show no call...then be on the website latter or call or IM latter as if nothing happened. It is as if allot of these people don't want to actually meet people. I would even bet that a good portion of people who are on dating sites are otherwise in relationships....and only go on to see who they would match with, or for pure entertainment. People who don't want to date but just like to chat and flirt with the opposite sex.
Eeyore79 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I attend regular groups for my hobbies because I particularly enjoy those hobbies; my attendance was never based on the attractiveness of the other members, I just wanted to do that particular activity. I'm now in a relationship and I still attend those hobby groups because I enjoy them. However the primary purpose of those groups is to do that hobby; they're not dating groups, and a lot of the members are married. If we're talking about attending a singles group which does an activity that I'm not particularly interested in, then obviously my only reason for attending would be to meet attractive people. So if there were no attractive people attending, then my attendance would be a bit pointless because I don't really want to do the activity, I only want to meet people. I guess what I'm saying is that if the primary purpose of a group is to do a hobby, then people will attend regardless of whether there are any attractive members. But if the primary purpose of a group is for singles to meet each other and date, then people won't attend if there are no attractive members, and will stop attending as soon as they find a relationship.
Author irc333 Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 from reading your previous posts I'm guessing you live in a small town so I know you don't have many opportunities to meet women in real life, that's why you are using online dating. Right.... (special note) though I do commute or travel distances to larger cities to socialize, but I reside among a smaller community....which is "somewhat" growing....the large city an hour away is kind of enroaching into my area of suburbia....but Occasionally, though I get eligible women within spitting distance from me popping up online (and are still online) on said sites.
Author irc333 Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 I would even bet that a good portion of people who are on dating sites are otherwise in relationships....and only go on to see who they would match with, or for pure entertainment. People who don't want to date but just like to chat and flirt with the opposite sex. LOL....yeah, kinda like those stupid "love lines" adveritiesments you see on late night TV...."Call, and talk to dozens of hot women in YOUR area!!" lol It's the online version of that.
Author irc333 Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 (edited) Weelllll...actually...hm....some of these groups are "iffy" on wether it's for single people or non-singles related. There are singles groups and non-singles groups, and what I've noticed....regardless....is that 99% of the people in thesse groups ARE single....we'd get an occasional couple that would show up....but typically these couples don't show. So, it's kinda moot. LOL In fact, I see these SAME singles people in BOTH singles and non-singles related groups anyhow. So chances are putting their feelers out regardless of the "theme" of the group. Just something I'VE personally noticed. Regardless, MOST of these people unattached anyhow, regardless of the theme. If we're talking about attending a singles group which does an activity that I'm not particularly interested in, then obviously my only reason for attending would be to meet attractive people. So if there were no attractive people attending, then my attendance would be a bit pointless because I don't really want to do the activity, I only want to meet people. . Here's the catch, what if it's a SINGLES group that DOES schedule an activity that IS interesting to you? In most cases, this is the case with the groups I'm familiar with. Ie - a Pool party or BBQ (well, those are events I'd be interesetd in, not sure about you, but you get the meaning. Edited March 18, 2011 by irc333
GivenUp0083 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I think IRC just spends WAY TOO MUCH time online. You sound like you're stalking the dating sites, comparing who is on a dating site to people who are on meetup groups? Overanalyzing why people don't go out to meetup groups and concluding that it's because they don't like any of the people on the RSVP list? Really? Ya do that?
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