Author one goal Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 I was too nervous to ask her in person. Why cant she just reply? Wanted her to know how I feel about her.
Cracker Jack Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I can't believe you actually sent it out already. Look, what's done is done. You can't sit around and wonder about why she isn't replying. Maybe she just doesn't want to; there's no telling. She might even talk to you about it and might even like it. Just wait till tue.
Author one goal Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 I can't believe you actually sent it out already. Look, what's done is done. You can't sit around and wonder about why she isn't replying. Maybe she just doesn't want to; there's no telling. She might even talk to you about it and might even like it. Just wait till tue. You think she might actually "like it" and might agree to go out on a date with me? What are the chances of that? Like 5 percent? What Im worried about is if she didn't like that and on tue she talks to me in class with others around. That would be kinda embarassing.
Cracker Jack Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 You think she might actually "like it" and might agree to go out on a date with me? What are the chances of that? Like 5 percent? I'm not saying the chances of her being okay with the potential date is really high or anything, but I don't think you should give up just yet. She might really be flattered for all we know. If she had replied straight back saying "no thanks", then you'd have a reason to give up. Do you think there's a chance she hadn't even gotten to it yet? I mean, some instructors I've had over the yrs would straight up admit to not always reading their email, but she's probably not like that. What Im worried about is if she didn't like that and on tue she talks to me in class with others around. That would be kinda embarassing. I don't think she'll do that. I could see her not even bringing it up at all. Now if she doesn't bring it up this week, are you going to try and bring it back up? Or are you just going to let it go altogether?
Author one goal Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 I'm not saying the chances of her being okay with the potential date is really high or anything, but I don't think you should give up just yet. She might really be flattered for all we know. If she had replied straight back saying "no thanks", then you'd have a reason to give up. Do you think there's a chance she hadn't even gotten to it yet? I mean, some instructors I've had over the yrs would straight up admit to not always reading their email, but she's probably not like that. I don't think she'll do that. I could see her not even bringing it up at all. Now if she doesn't bring it up this week, are you going to try and bring it back up? Or are you just going to let it go altogether? Probably let it go then. Unless she looks shaken and creeped about it. I could ask again last day of class.
spiderowl Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I don't think you've done anything wrong. You are being genuine and trying to approach her in the only reasonable way. It's really difficult when there are lots of other people about. But there are a few things I don't know. How old is she? If she's quite a bit older than you, she may think you are too young even if you don't. Young guys do approach older women and it feels a bit weird when they do. Also, it may be against the rules of the institution for her to have a relationship with a student. Whatever the situation, I think she should have the decency to respond and say something, even if it is a gentle rebuff. If she doesn't, then she's not worth the effort, really. You can find someone nicer who does respond to your lovely, gentlemanly behaviour.
Author one goal Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 I don't think you've done anything wrong. You are being genuine and trying to approach her in the only reasonable way. It's really difficult when there are lots of other people about. But there are a few things I don't know. How old is she? If she's quite a bit older than you, she may think you are too young even if you don't. Young guys do approach older women and it feels a bit weird when they do. Also, it may be against the rules of the institution for her to have a relationship with a student. Whatever the situation, I think she should have the decency to respond and say something, even if it is a gentle rebuff. If she doesn't, then she's not worth the effort, really. You can find someone nicer who does respond to your lovely, gentlemanly behaviour. She's probably late 30s. So probably 11 or so years older than me.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Dude, it's just not going to happen. Not going to happen in any way, shape or form.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 If she agrees to hang out with him (nevermind the date, just to hang out for coffee or something) I will eat a live rabbit and put the video on youtube.
Author one goal Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 If she agrees to hang out with him (nevermind the date, just to hang out for coffee or something) I will eat a live rabbit and put the video on youtube. LOL Well "hanging out" I would consider datish and that she's somewhat interested.
dispatch3d Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I was once asked out via email; I said no. It seemed a little weak that the guy hadn't approached me in person, and this lack of a personal approach meant there hadn't been any of the chatting and flirting that would normally convince me to date a guy - there hadn't even been any online chatting and flirting. I didn't even know he was interested; I knew nothing about him and he just asked me out cold, so obviously I said no. A few months later the same guy asked me out in person and I said yes. Tbh I can't see your teacher ageeing to date you anyway; it's more than her job's worth. Teachers aren't allowed to date students. Lol I enjoy this. I think this just shows dating isn't a rational thing. I wouldn't ask out my teacher, and I definitely wouldn't do it by email, and for sure would take slightly different wording. But really, if she's uncomfortable answering or replying to your emails I would just drop it and move on.
Author one goal Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 Why are you guys saying that my email makes it sound like I'm asking her on a date, and not just trying to be friendly?
oaks Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 If she agrees to hang out with him (nevermind the date, just to hang out for coffee or something) I will eat a live rabbit and put the video on youtube. Poor bunny! :bunny:
oaks Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Why are you guys saying that my email makes it sound like I'm asking her on a date, and not just trying to be friendly? Because you tipped us off earlier in this thread when you wrote: I mean I really do think she's hot and that and was serious about asking her out.
Author one goal Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 Because you tipped us off earlier in this thread when you wrote: I mean honestly, yes I'd like to sleep with her. Why would you ask a girl out then?
oaks Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I mean honestly, yes I'd like to sleep with her. Why would you ask a girl out then? Why would I ask a girl out... other than because I wanted to date her? Probably because we had a common interest/activity/hobby/sport and I wanted to either do that activity with her or talk with her about our experiences doing that thing, and I would somehow try to indicate that when asking her so that she knew why I was asking so that she wouldn't think it was a date (and she might still think I was asking her on a date... some women are funny like that).
Author one goal Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 If she doesn't mention the email to me tomorrow should I approach her after class about the email and ask her about it?
Euclid Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Well I don't think you are really interested in listening to anyone's advice here as you already ignored all of it. But no, I would not say anything. You already severely lowered your 'chances' by asking her in an email, if she was going to say yes she would have already responded.
Author one goal Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 I'm not upset with her for not replying. I just think she should at least give me a answer in class about it instead of keeping me hanging.
Titania22 Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I'm not upset with her for not replying. I just think she should at least give me a answer in class about it instead of keeping me hanging. I don't think she owes you anything, if she doesn't say anything you should assume you have your answer and it was a no.
dispatch3d Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 If I were her, I'd just avoid the whole thing. That's probably what she's doing right now. You realize her dating students could cost her her career? Bit of a leap. Seriously, you should pick a new girl and ask that one out. This one and you weren't mean to be.
Author one goal Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 If I were her, I'd just avoid the whole thing. That's probably what she's doing right now. You realize her dating students could cost her her career? Bit of a leap. Seriously, you should pick a new girl and ask that one out. This one and you weren't mean to be. This sucks. I try other girls. Like two years ago I asked out literally the hottest chick I've ever met. I got her number, but it turns out she had a boyfriend.
Macaw Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 It's been sooooo long ago... but I've been in your shoes. Well except the whole email part. I always did face-to-face. You seem to me like a guy who probably didn't get lucky in high school (like half of all the guys that go through high school) and haven't been lucky so far in getting a girlfriend either, so you act awkward and are terribly afraid of rejection. You don't understand what you are doing wrong because you're basing yourself off a very, very innocent brand of common sense, almost child-like and untainted by the malice which is so common among teenagers these days. You need to start thinking differently. Life isn't fair and it won't give you time to play catch-up. Mature women will not accept anything close to a date or hanging out with you because your inexperience shows, and to older women, it is very unnattractive. They wouldn't like a boy for a boyfriend. The other posters were right when they said you need to get your feet wet with younger women. You need to observe and learn how they think, and what they want out of their boyfriends, and how you can provide it. Men date women for a multitude of reasons other than sex. The fact that you said "why else would I date her" shows that you're simply too far off the game to even beep on your teacher's radar as a catch. Additionally, you need to learn from other men who have been doing this for a living. Just by typing "dating tips" in google will give you plenty of great reference material to get started. Best of luck to you, and remember, you're racing with a handicap. Don't shoot for 1st place until you can remove that handicap of yours.
Author one goal Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 So you're saying a woman thats probably like 11 years older than me is too mature for someone my age?
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