nothappyjan Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 After being recently single i'm attempting to re-enter the online dating world. I met the previous person i dated online on a free site. This time i've joined eharmony as i wanted something where i couldnt be seen unless i was matched with someone. Normally when i join things I get heaps of responses but so far i've been matched with 180 guys and only 4 people have even LOOKED at my profile. I cant even say they are rejecting me because they dont even look in the first place. Im quite attractive have filled out my profile in full and added more than one photo so what gives? Is eharmony just a time waster. I spoke with 3 guys, two i ended it with as one was working away and had travel plans for most of the year overseas so i thought it was pointless as we would never meet. The other i felt no attraction for and he was older and lives over an hour and a half drive away and i live in a big city so have lots of people who could live closer. The guys im still chatting with seems kind of robotic he is very polite but almost too polite and formal, i feel more like its a job interview but im giving it a go in real life to see how it works.
Lil1 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I'm in the same boat as you nothappyjan, I recently joined match.com (just last night), and so far the men that have responded don't really match what I described in my profile. I'm very skeptical about online dating (this is my first time) and I am wondering whether I should have just spent my money on a night out with friends instead lol! I don't know, but I say just hang in there, I have heard of some people making good connections through online dating sites so maybe we just gotta keep working at it. I've decided to try it out for a month and see how it goes. If nothing comes of it I think I will just save my money for more rewarding ventures Good luck!
Mrlonelyone Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Interesting. I was starting to feel like I was the only one with that problem. Though for me it's a problem of going on EH and sending messages to every match that does not show any obvious deal breakers. I have only gotten four or five replies at all. What's more is I have people who look at my profile then neither send a message or close the match. Personally I think that you two women ought to be more proactive. As the women on EH that I have been matched with are so timid they will not communicate in any way...to either close a match...or send a message. Neither saying yes or no. It's not like they get tons of messages EH only sends an initial 1 -2 hundred then about seven or eight a day after that. It's just a matter of clicking. Don't worry your not the only one who thinks that online dating is not serious anymore. It seems most people are there just to chat and flirt and have a little fun with no intention of actually meeting.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 It takes time and a willingness to be open. I think you should be more proactive and if you see a guy you are interested in, send him a message. Also be proactive in asking to meet. There's no reason to email back and forth for decades. I suggest meeting up after an email or two and the guy always goes for it. The point is to meet people so jump on an opportunity and take it. It can be scary and you may feel awkward at first emailing a guy first but they will probably be flattered!
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