Trojan John Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I think that's in the fine print, girls don't appreciate getting rejected. Nobody likes to be rejected. I suppose it depends on how you handle it, though. Men are much more likely to be rejected because they tend to approach women in this matter. Take a cue from us; when first you fail, wait, then try again later. Lather, rinse, repeat.
Titania22 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 BTW Titania, I think that it's easier to have one off sex and you are less likely to get rejected if you come on to a man that way. But to ask him cold for NSA arrangement implies some sort of commitment, if only commitment to see you multiple times for sex. Some men find even that too much to take. That's been my experience
Titania22 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Nobody likes to be rejected. I suppose it depends on how you handle it, though. Men are much more likely to be rejected because they tend to approach women in this matter. Take a cue from us; when first you fail, wait, then try again later. Lather, rinse, repeat. The time I got rejected, I played it all wrong. I did go back over and over, being all the more pathetic with every attempt. It was so wrong, but cracks me up when I think about it.
Trojan John Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 The time I got rejected, I played it all wrong. I did go back over and over, being all the more pathetic with every attempt. It was so wrong, but cracks me up when I think about it. That's pretty much how it happens with us, too...
Yelle Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 This is still bugging me. I am just wondering if anyone else has ever been in the same shoes. Being rejected for NSA sex means that the guy must find you really ugly indeed I offered NSA sex to this guy once and he said, "Now it's not the right time." I was fine with it but never heard from him again.
start-fresh Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Actually, I once asked a guy for sex, in front of 2 other guys, and the next time one of those other guys saw me, he told me he really respected my forthrightness. To be clear I didn't specify NSA, I just asked for sex. Thankfully it was one time I wasn't refused, and actually was the best sex of my life. Translation: he thought you were easy and was just sucking up to get laid as well.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 I offered NSA sex to this guy once and he said, "Now it's not the right time." I was fine with it but never heard from him again. now I feel a bit better. I am sure I will find this funny one day!
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 How can women be rejected when they don't take the initiative? In order to be rejected you actually have to make a move, you know... take the initative. You didn't. You gave him some subtle signals which he didn't pick up and now you whine about being rejected. Why would a woman want nsa sex anyway? Women don't even want sex in relationships, nevermind no strings attached. I think the OP is a man who would like to pretend women actually take initiatives to have sex. But listen mate, they don't. Get over it. Naaaah dude. The older I get, the more I want sex. In my early 20's even making out was a chore.
Titania22 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Translation: he thought you were easy and was just sucking up to get laid as well. He actually never came onto me, or did anything to give me any impression he was interested at all. I get that he probably wouldn't have objected if I had come on to him, but he never even flirted with me, or anything.
Titania22 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Naaaah dude. The older I get, the more I want sex. In my early 20's even making out was a chore. I hear you!
Macaw Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Was he one of those sensitive types? Since you said you two made out, maybe he thought he was falling for you and then he heard your proposal as "you're not boyfriend material, but we can still hook up" and got offended?
oaks Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 How can women be rejected when they don't take the initiative? In order to be rejected you actually have to make a move, you know... take the initative. You didn't. You gave him some subtle signals which he didn't pick up and now you whine about being rejected. Why would a woman want nsa sex anyway? Women don't even want sex in relationships, nevermind no strings attached. I think the OP is a man who would like to pretend women actually take initiatives to have sex. But listen mate, they don't. Get over it. Is that you, Wayne?
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Is that you, Wayne? I think so.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Is that you, Wayne? I think so.
sweetjasmine Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 No, I haven't, but that's because I've never offered it. If I had ever made such a suggestion to the men I was interested in, I can't think of any that would've accepted. They're not the type, though it's entirely possible they would sleep with a woman in the heat of the moment. Just not after an actual discussion about using each other for sex. Not all men are d-cks with legs attached.
alexlakeman Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 OP why did you create a new profile with a new name? What did I miss? yeah, sometimes it's a chore, even NSA sex, I've turned it down as well. Especially if the girl is not that hot; I'm like "is she even going to turn me on in bed"? or "Ugghh, have to wear a condom, can't do oral, since I don't really know her; not worth my time"..."she's chunky, so not doing her"..etc..
Leeway Harris Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 What the hell? Are we still not past this "Any man is ready and willing to bone any woman at any time as long as she's not hideous" garbage? We're not machines, ladies. Seriously.
TaurusTerp Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Seriously....I think your views on men are totally warped. Not all guys (not even most) want NSA with just anybody.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Seriously....I think your views on men are totally warped. Not all guys (not even most) want NSA with just anybody. Yeah I get that he isn't attracted to me. The only confusing part is that I was at his house and we made out for hours (initiated by him). I proposed NSA the next day and he said no. I am kind of shy so he maybe thought that I would be bad in bed. Who knows.
TaurusTerp Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Yeah I get that he isn't attracted to me. The only confusing part is that I was at his house and we made out for hours (initiated by him). I proposed NSA the next day and he said no. I am kind of shy so he maybe thought that I would be bad in bed. Who knows. Uhh, that's not what I mean at all. He initiated a make out so clearly he's attracted. Maybe he just doesn't want NSA period. Or even anything at the moment. Guys aren't as simplistic as you seem to think.
Eclypse Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I actually rejected NSA sex just last week. A girl wanted to do it, and I nearly did it. But then I regained my senses and decided to save my relationship so I said no. She was very hot and if I was single I'd have gone for it!
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 (edited) You proposed "casual dating" which was (in your words) "a code for NSA sex." "Casual dating" implies some ongoing dealings with a person. The people doing the "casual dating" would have to be somewhat interested, and have spare time to spend some hours with the other person. Also, evidently you had already been on a few dates with him and didn't give up the booty. The strings had already begun to be woven ... into something this guy didn't want to be enmeshed within, it seems. I imagine that if you would have offered the "NSA sex" right at the moment of your hot make-out session, he would have been happy to accept your kind offer ... and also happy to be able to walk away with no further contact with you. Truly, NO STRINGS ATTACHED. I think you have strings attached to everything you get near, anyway. Kind of like a spider web. Women aren't the only ones with intuition and perception. Could be that this guy sensed that he would be best to steer clear. I doubt it has a thing to do with your looks; I hope that's a comfort to you. Edited March 18, 2011 by Mme. Chaucer
acrossthemiles1 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Hmm. I had one guy who was interested in doing basically everything up to actual intercourse...I asked him if he had a condom, he said no "for precisely this reason" (i.e. he purposefully does not keep condoms around to keep him from getting swept up in things and sleeping with random girls lol). I don't know if that counts as being turned down though since, like I said, we did everything but...haha.
2sure Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 It may be surprising...but many many men just like women...simply are not into casual sex , or intimacy without the rest. OR many people just dont like to add that extra thing to the mix when a friendship has developed. Doesnt mean they dont find you attractive, doesnt mean they dont like you, doesnt mean anything.
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