pandagirl Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 This may sound like I'm being a bit whiny, but I'm here to see what other people have done when they've felt like this. I'm about to turn 33 and I'm completely single. First, I do NOT think I'm "old." But what makes me feel anxious about my relationship status and age, is the way that society perceives me: a woman who is getting older, becoming less attractive to men, childbearing years nearing its deadline. I'm realizing that I'm becoming -- by societal standards -- less desirable as a partner. And that upset me and makes me anxious. While in every other way in my life, things are good, I feel like this is a dark cloud over my head. I just want to relax and not worry about these things, but I can't because I feel like I'm racing against time. I know love can happen at any time and there are no rules, but I want to have a family one day. I'm becoming scared that a man will pass me up for someone younger, something I'd NEVER thought I'd say! Ugh. I feel gross for even admitting that!
grecian Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Don't worry!! You are still very young, even for a woman! I am 31, with a young child and divorced. After the divorce i have to admit i had a fear that no man will want to be with me because of age and the fact that i already have a child. But, i didnt give up, and now i have a serious relationship with a wonderful guy. In fact i have relatives and friends who got married and had kids after 35. Nowadays, it's just difficult to find someone for a serious relationship at any age, but not impossible. I am sure you can find a nice guy who will love you and wants the same things in life as you do. Keep your spirit up!!
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I know how you feel I am 32 and about 10 months from 33 and I have similar thoughts. The way I see it, no matter how old you are you can find love. Men are getting older too and at say 38, you will have a pool of men of say 38-40 something. To say that they all want 20 year olds is BS. Men worth having want an equal partner and will not worry about dating someone their own age. So really, there will be a pool of men available to date at ANY age. Now kids are more of a problem, but you roughly have about 10 years there. I myself am not that into kids so that doesn't worry me. Even at 32 (which is considered by some members of this forum as over the hill) I have no problem getting younger men and current bf is 30.
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