BlindRage Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 (edited) I'm not sure if you guys know my story but its a rough one you could say lol. Well there are times that I feel low but overall I'm doing MUCH better now. I am finally thinking of my ex less and less every day. For those of you who don't know she dumped me out of nowhere around 7 months ago after being together 2 and half years. I believed she was the love of my life but I'm letting go of that thought and it feels great. This is a roller-coaster ride, haha, but compared to not long ago you would think of me as a different person now. Oh but what I've noticed is that if I see an attractive female now I don't think of being in "love" or anything like that -which I used to- but rather more along the lines of 'I want to have sex with her and thats it'.. which is weird because I've never been "sexual". Its a big difference compare to seeing a pretty girl and crying over my ex -sometimes even holding back the tears infront of people which I'm more than positive they could see my eyes redden and puff-. I've improved! IDK why I'm posting this but just it feels good. Edited March 18, 2011 by BlindRage
Vickstar Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 So glad you feel much better, this is just proof that after a while you do feel much better, my ex bf dumped me about 5 months ago and i really do feel great. Of course i have some bad days but its literally nothing to what i was like 5 months ago and i never thought i'd be feeling this good. Ive got so much ambition and confidence now, im a completely different person and im even starting to think that breaking up was the best thing thats ever happened, its mad! NC people! honestly the best thing you could do! x
Author BlindRage Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 NC is the best way. Life is short you have to not dwell on things that make you sad.
brokendreamz Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Well done mate - good to hear. I hope I get there soon!
Author BlindRage Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Well done mate - good to hear. I hope I get there soon! You'll get there buddy, or fake it till you make it. I had a dream about my ex this morning and I just stayed in bed thinking about life/her/losses etc. I then told myself, "screw this!" and got up and put on a movie I enjoy -Casino- and started to get active. Hahaha now I'm feeling fine again without her being my main thought. I won't let that women sour my day anymore.
silvermane187 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Good job! I'm improving the same way when it comes to mornings. I still wake up thinking about her everyday. The difference now being that I force myself to get up and do something instead of dwelling on it over and over and over. It still sucks but it's better than no improvement at all!
stopthemadness Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Hi, its great to hear your feeling better these days. Our time frame is kinda the same and I too am feeling much better.You are so on the money about this whole thing being a rollercoaster ride.Like you most of my days are good ones. And the bad days are more just like a bad few minutes that seem to pass pretty fast.Am sure that in time that wont be a part of my day anymore. Its soo good to read about people that are healing because it gives everyone going through this stuff hope. The thing you said about "fake it till you make it" am there too. Its not an open wound anymore, so we are now able to be our old selfs again..Aint it great!!!keep up the good work...Thanks for posting....and i agree with Vickstar.. N/C is the only way to really healing. Had to learn that one the hardway....
Author BlindRage Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 Hi, its great to hear your feeling better these days. Our time frame is kinda the same and I too am feeling much better.You are so on the money about this whole thing being a rollercoaster ride.Like you most of my days are good ones. And the bad days are more just like a bad few minutes that seem to pass pretty fast.Am sure that in time that wont be a part of my day anymore. Its soo good to read about people that are healing because it gives everyone going through this stuff hope. The thing you said about "fake it till you make it" am there too. Its not an open wound anymore, so we are now able to be our old selfs again..Aint it great!!!keep up the good work...Thanks for posting....and i agree with Vickstar.. N/C is the only way to really healing. Had to learn that one the hardway.... What it feels like is that life is so short and its not worth the sadness. They can live without us happily, and so can we, its not easy but its possible.
Author BlindRage Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 Good job! I'm improving the same way when it comes to mornings. I still wake up thinking about her everyday. The difference now being that I force myself to get up and do something instead of dwelling on it over and over and over. It still sucks but it's better than no improvement at all! Hey if you keep it up then it will become routine. Just force it.
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