grecian Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 I didn't get any responses on my other thread, so here i go again. I would like to get some feedback from guys if possible. My guy has serious intentions but seems to have a few insecurities because of previous relationships and breakups. I would really like to open up to him and be very direct and tell him that I really want a future with him and i believe that he's the right guy for me. We've been pretty direct with each other from the beginning. Do you think this is a good idea or should i let him take the lead and clear out any concerns he may have whenever he feels is the right time??
SingVoice Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 How long have you been dating? Also...I think it's reasonable to have a conversation with him about that...what your expectations/hopes are. I would necessarily just blurt out "Hey I want to have your babies"...but I think you could sit down and just ask him what he thinks about your potential for a future...and then tell him how you feel. I mean...those kinds of talks usually happen in relationships...so this shouldn't be a big deal.
Author grecian Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 We've been together for 4 months; i know it doesn't sound like a long time but he had very strong chemistry from the beginning and we have the same desires and goals in life. We spend a lot of time together and even though he has a very demanding profession he always makes time to see me and spend 4-5 evenings a week with me. Funny thing is we've already talked about marriage and kids and he clearly wants to have kids with me. He mentioned that we have to clear some things out in the next few months (i suppose before he's ready to propose) but i think is just logistics and maybe some insecurities he has because of previous relationships. He has met my parents but i haven't met his yet; they leave in another state. Maybe he also wants his parents to meet me and get their feedback as well... i don't know. All i know is that i want to be with him and that he's the right guy for me. He's got all the qualities i've been looking for in a man- should i just tell him that and be done with it??
xpaperxcutx Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 I think you're moving too fast. 4 months is still way too earyly to talk about lifelong plans and I'm afraid if you do decide to confess to him about your feelings, you might not get the response you're looking for. I suggest you wait until you're out of the honeymoon phase before you do anything drastic. Usually it would be better if you guys are near a certain time where you are ready to move in together that you start planning weddings, kids and a future together.
Imajerk17 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I would at least wait, for one thing. I agree that 4 months is too soon. Let him keep pursuing you. You're already doing your part. It's his job to "be direct" and let you know he wants a future with you. Don't do his! If you keep taking this much initiative, you will be back on here in 4 months complaining that the guy is pulling away.
Author grecian Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 So, do you guys think that it's a bad thing to express confidence about your relationship to the other person? He already has talked about our future together and i can tell he really wants it. I mean the guy spends a lot of time with me and he's always there to talk to me. We communicate every day no matter what is going on and i have no doubt he loves me. Again, he probably needs some time to make sure that I'm not gonna dump him for some reason. So, having said that don't you think is a good idea to show the confidence i have in him being the one and in our relationship?? Or I guess i should wait until he brings up any questions or concerns he has?? Am I too freaking impatient or what??
Imajerk17 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 So, do you guys think that it's a bad thing to express confidence about your relationship to the other person? He already has talked about our future together and i can tell he really wants it. I mean the guy spends a lot of time with me and he's always there to talk to me. We communicate every day no matter what is going on and i have no doubt he loves me. Again, he probably needs some time to make sure that I'm not gonna dump him for some reason. So, having said that don't you think is a good idea to show the confidence i have in him being the one and in our relationship?? Or I guess i should wait until he brings up any questions or concerns he has?? Am I too freaking impatient or what?? When he talks about the future, add in your 2 cents. Whatever you've been doing all along is obviously working, so why change.
Author grecian Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 That's true, it's been working just fine! I guess i have to relax and not think about it too much, right? Thanks for the feedback!
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