written in the stars Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 My girl and I broke up at the beginning of December. She moved out. We still exchanged gifts for Christmas and we went out for New Years together. She started talking to another guy shortly after who she is with currently. She said she wanted to be with me on New Years but she didn't want things to be how they were at the end of our relationship (rocky) and that she still loved me. Now I only talk to her once a week and it's her contacting me not me contacting her. It's because of some unpaid bills. A couple weeks ago she called me and we proceeded to talk for an hour and I had to cut the conversation short cause I was at work. I brought up the bills, not her This last time we talked I grilled her on why she stayed on the phone with me so long last time and we started talking about our relationship and she was crying. To me it seems like there is still a little chance for me but I don't know. I just need some advice. I'm just still in love with her so much. I know I didn't give much back round cause I'm at work but I will if anybody needs it to give me an honest opinion. What do you guys think?
yessy21 Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 There is still a chance. she seems sweet and caring. But maybe theres something shes not telling u. like a fantasy or something that she really wants ... ask her. face to face is better. she knows u love her and she apparently loves u too.
Author written in the stars Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 I don't know if I should see her. I just want to give her time apart. I don't want to mess this up, I want to make sure I maximize my chances if there are any.
yessy21 Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 then let her miss u but let her know that u do want her. she might think u have moved on and u dont care.
SingVoice Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 She's still with this other guy right? It's possible that you guys broke up...she met someone else...and maybe it isn't going that great with the new guy...so she's keeping you around as a back burner guy. I guess if it were me I would put it out there like..."hey if you want to get together face to face to talk about things...I'm game. Otherwise give me the money you owe me and please leave me alone." You want her to WANT to be with you because of you...not because it didn't work out with this other guy.
yessy21 Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 She's still with this other guy right? It's possible that you guys broke up...she met someone else...and maybe it isn't going that great with the new guy...so she's keeping you around as a back burner guy. I guess if it were me I would put it out there like..."hey if you want to get together face to face to talk about things...I'm game. Otherwise give me the money you owe me and please leave me alone." You want her to WANT to be with you because of you...not because it didn't work out with this other guy.[/quote reconsidering the situation i believe this is also possible. and more realistic... damn my hopeless romantic self.
Author written in the stars Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 From what I hear, I don't think things are going bad with the other guy but I don't know if they are going great. I just want to make sure I do the right thing. Should I ignore her weekly check in and go NC or should I just lay everything out?
yessy21 Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 From what I hear, I don't think things are going bad with the other guy but I don't know if they are going great. I just want to make sure I do the right thing. Should I ignore her weekly check in and go NC or should I just lay everything out? try NC and see what happens. maybe that will trigger her thoughts.
Author written in the stars Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 When we do talk though the conversations aren't bad. She won't bring him up. We only talk about how our week went except the last time when she was crying. I don't want her to get pissed if I ignore her but I'm just so confused. Monday when she calls are the days when I'm in the best mood. Other than that I'm on an emotional roller coaster the rest of the week.
Author written in the stars Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 Ok, I'm nervous. Today is Monday and that's when she usually contacts me. Should I just have the normal friendly chat or should I start NC?
Beeotch Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 My take is: there is always a chance but sometimes that is not the point. Only time usually tells if this relationship is worth trying again. Not because you're hurt or still attached/inlove means that it is "meant to be". It is only normal. Most people do not magically lose all feeling after a break up...it takes a while. Even relationships that aren't good for us we tend to hold on to and miss. So with that said...I think break ups should be a time to really evaluate the relationship and take a time out to be able to see clearly as GUARANTEED you are not thinking clearly early on. I think if it is meant to be...after the initial hurt wears off and you can view things objectively...then you'll have a better chance of a second chance that is lasting.
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