BrokenFool Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Just wanted to say guys never ever break NC, after finally managing 50 odd days of NC i contacted my EX to let her know I had a new job etc, she congratulated me and then when i tried to talk to her blanked me and then told me she is now with somebody else - boy that hurt , he lives in her home town ( which is 300 miles away from me) and she met him on a matrimonial site, and worse is my new job involves working her town she said to my friend she hadnt missed me or thought about me one little bit in them two months i hadnt contacted her, she told him 7 weeks ago she wouldnt deny she had feelings for me i thought she would have missed me a little after 2 months to want to talk and see if we could resolve things or maybe even just catch up and leave it at that but she was so so cold and horrible to me ,i sent her about 10 texts which she ignored and then she contacted my friend saying you have to get him to stop harassing me with texts, hes shown he cant change and im glad i ended things personally i dont think she has met anybody as she didnt tell me this the 1st day i broke nc but the second and i think it was her way of getting me to stop texting her boy this hurts back to day one NC but this time it is 100% to heal i dont have any hopes of wanting her back any advice or similar stories insight would be greatly appreciated
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 just search NC - and see how many you come up with. hundreds. "I broke NC - Big Mistake." Lather, rinse, repeat. Too many to count, hun.
Author BrokenFool Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 Tara - I read once during NC it is very important to give up hope of what you want to happen actually happening that way if it happens its a nice suprise, if it doesnt then it doesnt hurt that much i dont know whether to class this relationship ( if it exists) as a rebound as 7 weeks ago she openly admitted she had feelings for me or something she is serious about it hurts me but her being in a relationship with somebody else doesnt scare me as she has a lot of flaws and a nasty personality which she cant see, once her honeymoon period has worn off she may be able to improve one aspect of her selfish personality or two or three but she cant change them all can she and just because i was a mug to put up with them doesnt mean the next guy will be i give her 3 months tops - dont get me wrong i am not saying she will come running back to me begging and pleading , but the only way she was going to ever be able to see how she contributed to the problems in our relationship aswell was by being in a relationship with somebody else
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 You do whatever you feel is right for you, but yeah - NC is definitely a personal healing process. Read the two links in my signature. However, what I would say is this: if she does contact you again, there's a very good way of determining whether she is genuinely sorry, accepts responsibility, and desperately wants to try again, and will do whatever it takes to make it up to you and prove she's sincere. She will tell you precisely that. Anything else - anything flowery, casual, concerned, pseudo-interested - she's just baiting you to see whether you're still on a string she can yank.
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