denise_xo Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Hi "Dreamingoftigers" Beyond your emotional diatribes , you only seem to make personal judgements and fill your replies with "unladylike" commentary. You sound extremely frustrated (and scary at times), and seem to miss the point that we all have some levels of marriage "dysfunctions" on this forum. Hence, that's why we chose to participate and post. I seek feedback and I'm not afraid to hear constructive criticism. To continually describe these matters in a " boy's locker room" talk, is not dignified and I thought one would rise above that. If you are talking to your man in this kind of tone, I can only imagine the tension it causes. Regardless, sorry your world went to pieces when you found out your Pop was having an affair. Did you talk to both parents, or just treat your pop as guilty regardless. I know women are from Venus and men from Mars. So men are always guilty in these matters, right?! Does it not seem to be a double standard when women go outside their marriage and do the same thing? Yes, sex matters in a marriage, and it can never be forced. She must want it as much as he. And he cannot force her to consent if she does not want to. I hope I have not ended up in one of these "right" sided Christian religious sites, where conformity is so paramount that it stifles any creative and honest level of dialogue. Why don't you check out DOT's thread in the divorce and separation section before throwing out your 'unladylike' labels and questioning whether she just 'treated her H as guilty'. That might give you a slightly different perspective. That she is still giving that man a chance qualifies to saint status, IMO.
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