agirlhere Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 I was doing good (well OK) Had been 6 days NC. The first time we broke up, 6 days never happened! i was proud of myself this time. I saw him yesterday (I knew it was unavoidable, that it would happen due to circumstances) When he saw me walk by, he said hello and I nonchalantly said hello back. (I was shaking) Few moments later I get a text saying how great I look. I RESPONDED! A few texts of kidding around, and then....I asked if I could speak to him!! He said yes. I didnt cry, or beg or plead, but I was NEEDY none the less...."do you miss me?, "do you ever think about us in the future" UGH!!!!!! It was bittersweet, because It was nice seeing him (he felt the same) we hugged and talked about regular stuff as well, but then out came the NEEDY!! His responses were not what I wanted to hear...hes doing well, keeping busy as to not dwell. He loves me but not "head over heels in love with me...hes not sure if he is capable of that but he is sure he should just "know" when it happens...the reason we broke up, is because he could never tell me he loved me...always said he wasnt sure, that it felt like love but he wasnt sure.....NOW after the break up...he does love me just not ENOUGH!! "Who knows what the future holds, I may realize down the road I made a mistake, and you may have met someone and married again" His ambiguous BS should be enough to make me walk/run away shakin my head!! Why arent I?? Good Lord what is wrong with me!!! He is messed up, and yet....I love the idiot!! He says I dont want you to wait for me, yet he says **** that is so confusing......is this a typical game they play???
810 Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 I think he was being honest. I don't think it was any games he played. It's OK to feel frustrated and overwhelmed with his answers and it's absolutely OK for acknowledging your feeling for him. It's up to you to wait and see or NC starting day 1. It's hard to let go but sometimes it's the best thing you can do for yourself. X
lolo1234 Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Ditto. I think he was being honest and maybe wanted a bit of attention. Everyone likes attention! Do you think if he realized how crazy this was driving you, he would have made the effort to be nice and friendly?
lovnlost Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I was doing good (well OK) Had been 6 days NC. The first time we broke up, 6 days never happened! i was proud of myself this time. I saw him yesterday (I knew it was unavoidable, that it would happen due to circumstances) When he saw me walk by, he said hello and I nonchalantly said hello back. (I was shaking) Few moments later I get a text saying how great I look. I RESPONDED! A few texts of kidding around, and then....I asked if I could speak to him!! He said yes. I didnt cry, or beg or plead, but I was NEEDY none the less...."do you miss me?, "do you ever think about us in the future" UGH!!!!!! It was bittersweet, because It was nice seeing him (he felt the same) we hugged and talked about regular stuff as well, but then out came the NEEDY!! His responses were not what I wanted to hear...hes doing well, keeping busy as to not dwell. He loves me but not "head over heels in love with me...hes not sure if he is capable of that but he is sure he should just "know" when it happens...the reason we broke up, is because he could never tell me he loved me...always said he wasnt sure, that it felt like love but he wasnt sure.....NOW after the break up...he does love me just not ENOUGH!! "Who knows what the future holds, I may realize down the road I made a mistake, and you may have met someone and married again" His ambiguous BS should be enough to make me walk/run away shakin my head!! Why arent I?? Good Lord what is wrong with me!!! He is messed up, and yet....I love the idiot!! He says I dont want you to wait for me, yet he says **** that is so confusing......is this a typical game they play??? I think by him complimenting you after you walked by...was a ****ty thing to do as it was an ego/ confidence builder for him...his words may have been plain and honest....but every male loves attention in many forms. This is just my opinion. I have sought out attention from other women in the wake of my break up....but I dont have the heart or motivation to pursue any of them. Just smile and talk....and leave them wondering why I am not pursuing....I am done with these actions as they don't do a thing for me. Others are different. Keep up with the NC if you can. Its SO damn hard. Its been about 5 weeks for me....still hard everyday.
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