krystal1234 Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 had an earlier post about this....met a guy online dating...we seemed to really hit it off...he told me he believed in getting to know someone first before sex...i agree...but now after the second time hanging out at the end of the day he hugs me, kisses my cheek and says we should keep hanging out as friends....then i get an email the next day telling me he had a nice time with some really nice words towards me...then he signs it "take care my friend" what the...? i mean i get the whole friendship first thing, but why does he feel the need to keep letting me know...i sent a nice email back, but kept it a tiny bit distant..my plan is to continue to see him (cuz i really like him) and just lets things flow as they will...but i dont want to say the wrong thing or really start liking this guy if he really is only interested in only being friends....
Jack & Coke Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Might do well to just come out and ask him where he sees it going. You'll drive yourself crazy analyzing it, but if you ask him you might get a straight answer.
welikeincrowds Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Men should know better than to use the F word in the presence of a lady.
Author krystal1234 Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 Might do well to just come out and ask him where he sees it going. You'll drive yourself crazy analyzing it, but if you ask him you might get a straight answer. very true...now i need to work up the nerve to do it.
Lilmisus Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Men should know better than to use the F word in the presence of a lady. First time my boyfriend told me he loved me, he freaked out when I didn't say it back and he rephrased it to say "I love you... like a friend!" Major ego killer. You are 100% right though, one of the worst things you could say. I don't think this dude is interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with you. You could continue and see where it will lead you, or ask him what his motives are, but I think he's already giving you the answer: he just wants to be friends.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Reply to him in the email and say "please dont say "my friend", it makes me thing that you only see me as a friend and not a romantic interest." He HAS to come up with an explanation after that. You need to get this out in the open now before you waste any more time with him.
whichwayisup Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 but now after the second time hanging out at the end of the day he hugs me, kisses my cheek and says we should keep hanging out as friends....then i get an email the next day telling me he had a nice time with some really nice words towards me...then he signs it "take care my friend" Either he's a sweet guy and taking it slow, being cute with you OR he's letting you know in his own way that you two are just friends, nothing more. The "Take Care" thing is confusing. To me, telling someone you don't know well to take care, is almost like goodbye or we're not going to be intouch for a while. To others it's just something nice to say to someone. What nice words did he say about you?
Mrlonelyone Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 It sounds to me like he wants romance but is taking it slowly. You know. What do his actions say? Is he acting like someone who's trying to court you in other ways? Is he acting like he wants romance? Words are cheap look at what he does.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 It sounds to me like he wants romance but is taking it slowly. You know. . Well obviously he is not aware that using the " f" word made him a killjoy. I think most men are easy to figure out, they either want to have sex with you or they friendzone you.
Author krystal1234 Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 Well obviously he is not aware that using the " f" word made him a killjoy. I think most men are easy to figure out, they either want to have sex with you or they friendzone you. Our converstations are pretty deep. He has been staying in constant contact with me either via the phone or email (every few days...thus far). I did notice the last time we hung out (we went to the park and walked around taking pictures for hours) that we kept bumping into each other and we both acted as if nothing was going on. He also mentioned through the day about future plans, for example places he wants to take me for a walk, a movie he wants me to see, etc. I have to admit that because of the situation that I may not be giving the signal that I am into him too.....i know he wanted me to see a picture in his apt after we hung out, but I didn't take the lead in asking to go in when we got back because i dont want to be too pushy. After that and the hug and kiss on the cheek he mentioned hanging as "friends". One last thing....In his last email he said he wanted to hang out again soon.
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