just_smile Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Ok so there is this guy that works at carls jr and I always go through drive thru cuz he's always at the window. We alwaysgive eachother "the look" if u know what I mean. We never really had a convo or anything, just hands my drink and stuff. Well on Sunday I went, and I just asked for a cup of ice, since its free, and I gave him a paper folded in half that had my name, number and "call me!!" written on it. When I handed it to him I said "here, that's for u" and smiled. He was in shock like, speechless and just stared at me and didn't know what to say. It was pretty funny cuz it was random. But its been 3 days and still no call from him. Was it too much? Will he call? I'm nervous that he won't and I just made a fool of myself.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 there's a difference between a girl that likes us, & one that stalks us...
810 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Have you been back for your free cup of ice? the reason I'm asking is because he might have lost your number. I'm not suggesting you being desperate but giving him the benefit of the doubt. If you really like him, you can come back to Carl's Jr. and do the same routine, ask him what he thought about the things in that piece of paper you gave him and see his response. However, it's best not hitting on him during his work hours because he might get into trouble for that.
ivalm Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Pretty bold, I like it You have to realize, however, that he may have a GF. You definitely didn't make a fool of yourself, but there could be a million reasons why he won't call (none of them having to do with you doing something wrong!).
ivalm Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Have you been back for your free cup of ice? the reason I'm asking is because he might have lost your number. I'm not suggesting you being desperate but giving him the benefit of the doubt. If you really like him, you can come back to Carl's Jr. and do the same routine, ask him what he thought about the things in that piece of paper you gave him and see his response. However, it's best not hitting on him during his work hours because he might get into trouble for that. Yeah, definitely return to the place, but I wouldn't ask about the piece of paper. If he's interested, he'll let you know.
Author just_smile Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 Yeah, definitely return to the place, but I wouldn't ask about the piece of paper. If he's interested, he'll let you know. yeahhhh i was thinking about going back, but im so nervous lol. giving him my number was a big enough step so for me to go back is like scary for me haha. If i go back what should i say exactly?? I dont know!! i need help! lol
810 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 If i go back what should i say exactly?? I dont know!! i need help! lol smile and say: "hi ___, can i have a cup of ice?"
ivalm Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 yeahhhh i was thinking about going back, but im so nervous lol. giving him my number was a big enough step so for me to go back is like scary for me haha. If i go back what should i say exactly?? I dont know!! i need help! lol Order your regular meal, respond if he tells you anything. Seriously, I would just resume your regular habit of buying food at the place. He COULD have lost the piece of paper or it could have gotten destroyed somehow/whatever. He had time to think about it, so he probably prepared some sort of response. If the response is "act as if nothing happened", then don't push him on the subject. I think your actions so far have been excellent, and the ball is in his court. You definitely didn't do anything that would turn me off (or most other guys I know). Heck, I wish more girls were this proactive Edit: another cross post with 810, his suggestion may be good.. playful can be good but if you want to do this you have a small time window..
O'Malley Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 You didn't make a fool of yourself at all. Kudos for initiating -- there's nothing wrong with letting a guy know that you find him attractive. There's way too many variables involved in "why" if he doesn't call. Sometimes cold approaches work, many times they don't. He may simply not be interested. He may already be involved. He may find you attractive, but is too hesitant or unmotivated to do anything about it. There's nothing wrong with going back to your regular routine, and see if he takes any initiative to speaking to you more. And if he's not as interested as you perceived or can't be motivated to pick up that phone, you wouldn't want to date him anyway.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 seriously, OP, three questions: 1. how often do you go there? 2. are you ever with anybody else? 3. do you ever order anything that costs money? Personally, I'd already be weirded out by any stranger that's never chosen to engage me in conversation, but has somehow learned my work schedule well enough to show up my job regularly, knowing that i'd be there, and not ordering anything of actual substance... +10 more weird points if you're always doing this by yourself; +20 more if you do this any more than once a week. you gave your number to a guy you've never had a conversation with... if you did that to me I'd conclude that it was either a joke, that you're extremely desperate, or perhaps a stalker. if you came back and asked about the note, I'd ask my boss for advice behind closed doors.
ReturnToSender Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 You never know his circumstance...beyond being a bit flirty or admiring you from the window, he may not even be in a position to date. Its entirely possible he already has a gf... I dont think you were stalking btw, you noticed each other whenever you went there...and you had the guts to make a first move which is pretty much the only way since hes working, theres no way he could ask you for your number without it being inappropriate. I think you did fine, but at this point...just let it go. If he never contacts you, at least you tried!
Author just_smile Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 seriously, OP, three questions: 1. how often do you go there? 2. are you ever with anybody else? 3. do you ever order anything that costs money? Personally, I'd already be weirded out by any stranger that's never chosen to engage me in conversation, but has somehow learned my work schedule well enough to show up my job regularly, knowing that i'd be there, and not ordering anything of actual substance... +10 more weird points if you're always doing this by yourself; +20 more if you do this any more than once a week. you gave your number to a guy you've never had a conversation with... if you did that to me I'd conclude that it was either a joke, that you're extremely desperate, or perhaps a stalker. if you came back and asked about the note, I'd ask my boss for advice behind closed doors. lol...i would go there on a regular to get a Monster, but hes not always working when i go. and i dont go JUST for him, its for my monster. i need my energy and im too lazy to get off and get one so i go through drive thru....i'm sometimes alone, with my brother, or with my friends. Really depends where i'm going you know...i dont know his work schedule lol trust me, i'm no stalker.
Jack & Coke Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 seriously, OP, three questions: 1. how often do you go there? 2. are you ever with anybody else? 3. do you ever order anything that costs money? Personally, I'd already be weirded out by any stranger that's never chosen to engage me in conversation, but has somehow learned my work schedule well enough to show up my job regularly, knowing that i'd be there, and not ordering anything of actual substance... +10 more weird points if you're always doing this by yourself; +20 more if you do this any more than once a week. you gave your number to a guy you've never had a conversation with... if you did that to me I'd conclude that it was either a joke, that you're extremely desperate, or perhaps a stalker. if you came back and asked about the note, I'd ask my boss for advice behind closed doors. Haha definitely. Learning little things is one thing but knowing his schedule is a bit much. Nothing wrong with bold moves but hopefully you haven't entered stalker mode in his mind.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 You went about it the wrong way. Its bold to just give him your number but you never even talked to him,. he doesnt know if he will like you just based on your looks. If you go back to the drive thru, you need to engage him in conversation. he wont call if he thinks you could be crazy. If he looks that good, he gets alot of flirting from women in the drive thru.
810 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 i say, forget drive-thru. walk in and get your usual.
Author just_smile Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 i say, forget drive-thru. walk in and get your usual. lol i did that once with my friend after the gym, but he wasn't working, and i dont know what car he drives either so i can't be like "oh he's here, lets get off" u know...but we'll see what happens. but I know theres NO way he thinks i'm a stalker thats all i have to say lol.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 lol...i would go there on a regular to get a Monster, but hes not always working when i go. and i dont go JUST for him, its for my monster. i need my energy and im too lazy to get off and get one so i go through drive thru....i'm sometimes alone, with my brother, or with my friends. Really depends where i'm going you know...i dont know his work schedule lol trust me, i'm no stalker. in that case, just show some cleavage. it's the best you can do, short of talking to him. good luck!
Jack & Coke Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 You went about it the wrong way. Its bold to just give him your number but you never even talked to him,. he doesnt know if he will like you just based on your looks. If you go back to the drive thru, you need to engage him in conversation. he wont call if he thinks you could be crazy. If he looks that good, he gets alot of flirting from women in the drive thru. Yeah, and he is at work. He may not be in the pick-up state of mind, so you should try to engage him more before pulling a move like that. He sees tons of faces daily.
ReturnToSender Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 I dont think that its totally understood that hes on the clock... and his job isnt one where he can even make any sort of small talk and get away with it...plus theres no way for him to make a move on her since hes the one working and it would be very inappropriate. Really, the only way for them to have any chance to talk is when hes not working... Its actually not even all that unusual...I have a lot of friends who work in the service industry, not fast food but as servers, and this isnt unusual. A couple friends of mine are always coming across women leaving their numbers on a receipt or a napkin. They are flattered but have never called cause they both have gfs... and females often have a guy leave him her business card... Its always up to the guest to make the move...and leaving their number is pretty much the way to do it. I think its awesome to be so bold....Im too shy
curlygirl40 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Kudos to you! I say resume your usual routine and if you see him then flash a smile and see what happens. I think chances are good that he has a girlfriend so I wouldn't push at this point. You sent the message that you're interested. He received it. It's his turn, ball is in his court. My opinion, of course. And there is so much to initial attraction, if you are both attracted to each other and both available, then sure he'll call. Getting to know you can happen on the first date. So I don't believe that he's not calling because 'he doesn't really know you, you haven't struck up meaningful conversations, etc.' Best of luck! Go get em!
dispatch3d Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 lol i did that once with my friend after the gym, but he wasn't working, and i dont know what car he drives either so i can't be like "oh he's here, lets get off" u know...but we'll see what happens. but I know theres NO way he thinks i'm a stalker thats all i have to say lol. You seem like a really fun girl. Some people would take the stalker comment to heart; luckily it just bounces off your personality and you carry on. Nice! It should by the way, the stalker comment is just off. Generally when girls hit on me I'm always pretty surprised. I mean, lots of guys never get hit on. That is pretty normal, at least from what I can tell. A few years ago girls would occasionally hit on me and I just wouldn't get where they were coming from. So I never know how to react, if I should "trust it" or whatever. It's hard to describe really. He probably was generally shocked some girl gave him her number, then wondered why. I would just continue to go there and act as you did before. Don't get too wrapped up in "does he like me, does he not" thinking. Who cares, you need your monster drink, the boy at the drive thru is cute, so on and so forth.
ReturnToSender Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 You seem like a really fun girl. Some people would take the stalker comment to heart; luckily it just bounces off your personality and you carry on. Nice! It should by the way, the stalker comment is just off. Generally when girls hit on me I'm always pretty surprised. I mean, lots of guys never get hit on. That is pretty normal, at least from what I can tell. A few years ago girls would occasionally hit on me and I just wouldn't get where they were coming from. So I never know how to react, if I should "trust it" or whatever. It's hard to describe really. He probably was generally shocked some girl gave him her number, then wondered why. I would just continue to go there and act as you did before. Don't get too wrapped up in "does he like me, does he not" thinking. Who cares, you need your monster drink, the boy at the drive thru is cute, so on and so forth. Its funny you say that...when my ex and I met he tried to talk to me but I was just hanging out with friends and not really interested. Later that nite as I was leaving the bar, I noticed him again and asked him if he wanted my number. He looked like he was about to jump out of his skin. I didnt know until after we broke up, he said he literally thought that it was a joke and wasnt sure what to think of that...that never happened to him before. I had drink in me so I was more courageous than Id ever be...Id never done that before either and not sure I could be that bold again lol But it worked out (while it did) and he still was wowed that I had those kind of guts. I say kudos to anyone who can do that
Author just_smile Posted April 5, 2011 Author Posted April 5, 2011 Well...he never called. I went back like u guys said and I flashedfriendly smile and he was just like whatever, acting like nothing ever happened. So I just thought "fine then, ur missing out bye." Cuz it was kinda weird the way he did it. U know how u can just feel the vibe ...idk I just felt rejected. How embarassing...
Thedude22 Posted April 5, 2011 Posted April 5, 2011 Unlikely. But not you're fault he's just probably a pussy. I would call or text a girl that did that even if I was dating someone. Girls never do that and that takes some moxy. I'd respect that enough to talk to you.
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