Boyfriend said he wants us to be just friends, but is jealous and keeps contacting?

[Ms. Jackson]

We were fighting very frequently and even if he was the one who did the most hurt in this relationship, he said he wants us to be friends. The day he made the decision asked me if I wanted to come over and sleep at his place (I had said that I should go to him that day just before he let me know about the breakup).

I refuse to go, since he made the decision to be friends, but I went the next day to pick up some stuff I had there, and he looked at me and seemed in love still.

That same day when we broke up, I was talkking to a friend on the phone and he contacted me on messenger and when he heard I was talking to someone, he kept asking who was it and seemed jealous.

After I went to pick up my stuff he contacted me in the evening to ask why hadn't I gone to sleep yet, and the next day he sent me a sms and asked some random question.

 

I still have feeling for him, and I don't want to be in the friends category, but I want the old him back, that I madly fell in love with not the guy he became now. I keep thinking about how he used to be and I am crazy about him that way.

 

I don't know what to do. To be his friend or break all contact and see what he does? Stop answering his messages?

 

What should I do? What is in his mind?? Please help me understand?

 

With him I had my first real relationship and the longest, even if it was one year.

 

Afew days before he said he wants us to be friends, I told him we were done and I never wanted to keep contact with him, but as I was still having strong feelings and our 1 year anyversary was in 2 days, I thought I should reconsider.

I wanted to take my stuff from him but he kept me by the door and didn't answer and postponed me until the anyversary, we spent that together, we slept, although I could see in his eyes and behaviour he didn't seem to feel like before or maybe he was upset by what happened.

 

Personally I thought it was humiliating to keep me waiting by the door and not answer, but he said it was justified, as he said I shouldn't come over. On our anyversary, some of the time he was nice, and some other time he trated me like I was anything else but first place, or as it it hadn't been our anyversary. Refused to give me a massage when I asked him to give me one. I said I would have done this, had he asked me. And when I got upsed he said I was manipulating him. And other stuff.... that I will not mention, I don't want to make this too long.

[yessy21]

He wants to be in control. get over him. now. he is .... stupid. and immature. He wants to see if u will give him what he wants without him putting effort into a relationship.