alexlakeman Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 You know, I BS alot of on here at times and when I talk to my friends, but I feel I do have a concience; maybe too much when dating, and miss out on a few potential one night stands.. I saw this one female on the first date last week and chemistry we hit it off as a homerun, the night flew by, then other energies started flowing, bra came off, some of this and that out in the parking lot and in the bar, lol (blame it on the alcohol flow, lol)... Anyway at the end of the night, I could've definitely taken her back, but didn't do it, for two reasons: 1. I had no condoms and was too wasted to have to go to the 24 drug store to get some and 2. I knew I had no interest in seeing her again... Fast forward 2-3 days later, we see each other for lunch, and I was like "WTF!!" I guess seeing her when I was sober, was umm, different .. She wants it as much as I do.. Guys can't be the only ones interested in a one night stand... Women, please chime in... I guess I could tell her I am not interested in a relationship at the time, and take it from there, invite her out or whatever and then sleep with her... and then what? Not call her back? Send her one of my "I didn't feel the connection" texts? Or not sleep with her and jsut let it go ? Thoughts?
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Have you ever considered that you might be an alcoholic? That's my thought.
Lovelybird Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 this is why I hope women hold off sex as long as they can, best until marriage. even men want sex right away, in their bottom of heart, they still hope a woman can hold it off until the commitment on the table
bac Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Guys can't be the only ones interested in a one night stand... Women, please chime in... I guess I could tell her I am not interested in a relationship at the time, and take it from there, invite her out or whatever and then sleep with her... and then what? Not call her back? Send her one of my "I didn't feel the connection" texts? Or not sleep with her and jsut let it go ? Thoughts? Alex, do you know what you want? If you want a ONS, you just go and get it no matter what. No, you do not tell her that you want ONSs but you sleep with her and then, do not call her back after that. You do not need to send her your rejection text because such a stupied woman does not exist who believes that you feel the strong connection with her if you vanish into thin air after sex. Also, it is her problem if she does not have any common sense. I am totally positive that any woman with a half of brain can figure out instantly a guy like you when he is after ONSs. If you want a serious relationship, you go for that but it takes a totally different approach to set the first date. The approach is to be selective and not to be shallow.
betterdeal Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Guys can't be the only ones interested in a one night stand... Women, please chime in... I guess I could tell her I am not interested in a relationship at the time, and take it from there, invite her out or whatever and then sleep with her... and then what? Not call her back? Send her one of my "I didn't feel the connection" texts? Or not sleep with her and jsut let it go ? Do. what. you. want. to. do. You want a one night stand? Find someone you hit it off with, bump uglies with him / her, say, "that was great, bye." et voila! a one night stand. Oh, and keep a stash of condoms at home and at least one in your wallet.
Lovelybird Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 I mean, isn't every man's curiosity that if this woman is easy or not? even OP knows what he wants, isn't that tempting to test what and how this woman made of?
Emilia Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Guys can't be the only ones interested in a one night stand... Women, please chime in... I guess I could tell her I am not interested in a relationship at the time, and take it from there, invite her out or whatever and then sleep with her... and then what? Not call her back? Send her one of my "I didn't feel the connection" texts? Or not sleep with her and jsut let it go ? Thoughts? I know a guy I really fancy physically but because when he drinks he turns into someone quite different I don't think I could have a relationship with him. IF he kept asking me out and wanted to date me, I would say no. If he was quite relaxed about anything further, I would say yes. the only reason why I'm not trying to find out what he is after is that we are colleagues, otherwise we fancy each other quite a bit so basically I would find out what the other person is after and would act accordingly.
Emilia Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 this is why I hope women hold off sex as long as they can, best until marriage. even men want sex right away, in their bottom of heart, they still hope a woman can hold it off until the commitment on the table erm no, you can't commit to someone until you know what you are commiting to
OliveOyl Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 I saw this one female on the first date last week and chemistry we hit it off as a homerun, the night flew by, then other energies started flowing, bra came off, some of this and that out in the parking lot and in the bar, lol (blame it on the alcohol flow, lol)... Anyway at the end of the night, I could've definitely taken her back, but didn't do it, for two reasons: 1. I had no condoms and was too wasted to have to go to the 24 drug store to get some and 2. I knew I had no interest in seeing her again... How can you have chemistry with someone you have no interest in seeing again? I have no moral thing against a ONS, but as I recall (from the dim, dim past) usually the only time something would knowingly lead to a ONS is if the ONLY chemistry involved was ethanol... Otherwise if there is actual chemistry, I was usually interested in more than a ONS...
depplover_1980 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Ask her, it's very very simple - do it via text if you're too wuss to say it to her face and she'll either be up for it, or won't. In that case NEXT!! I have seen some terrible advice about hitting and running. This is no way to be, guys just be straight up with women and that way fun is had and damage limitation is installed.
NeoGen85 Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Go ahead and chase the single life. Sometimes you'll be surprised at what women just want. For myself I've always been quite reserve and when my girlfriend broke my heart I had to focus on myself. A lot of positive things came from it, and I found out how to enjoy life. At one point I thought I was ready to settle down with one woman, and live in the same place until I die. Boy, I was wrong. I was even in the middle of buying a home until I received a promotion and my boss told me I would be traveling(forget a mortgage). I haven't had a ONS of my own, but there have been many times where I've run across several opportunities. With strangers? Nope. More so with friends or good acquaintances. Just recently I held a party at my place and found two gorgeous friends butt naked in my bathroom licking on each other. About a week later one of the girls I went out with to a hockey game(as friends) brought that night up. The conversation turned into humor and sex. My response was that I needed to remain single for a bit for my sanity. She told me this: "If you ever need a single woman for a single night of insanity I'll show you a good time." And our lifestyles are about the same. I am hard working and playing single young man. She's a woman enjoying life while in love with her work.
Author alexlakeman Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 I guess I'm too much of a nice guy at times.. I texted her...
Butterflying Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 If you're gonna have a ONS, do it!! Especially if the girl is willing to do it. If you see each other again and she wants more, THEN you should be honest. Tell her you don't want a relationship. Whatever you do, don't start out by telling her you want a relationship, going on a few dates, building up the chemistry, having feelings. Then after having sex DON'T suddenly change your mind by saying you don't think your personalities match. That would be bad, very very bad.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Quit over thinking this and get laid, buddy... The chips will fall where they may, when the time is right.
Jack & Coke Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Have you ever considered that you might be an alcoholic? That's my thought. Is that just based on this post?
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Is that just based on this post? No. Posting history - drinking is key, always.
Jack & Coke Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 No. Posting history - drinking is key, always. Gotcha. ...
Author alexlakeman Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 I bs sometimes on here and off line, but I do have a conciense. This woman seemed very nice, I knew I could get laid if I wanted to, that's enough browny points for me... after texting back and fourth the other day I just texted her that I was going to pass on this online dating thing and good luck to her dating.. she asked if I had met someone else, I said no...and told her I wasn't in the mode right now for a relationship (I was NOT going to tell her I didn't really like her that much, that's would've been screwed up for her). I told her we obviously had a great time and there was chemistry, but I didn't see it going long term and didn't want to go out a few more times just to sleep with her when I wasn't into it long term.. She responded and I quote "As a woman that is VERY much appreciated , thanks".. I guess you gotta know who and when to just get laid, she seemed way too nice to do that to her... No. Posting history - drinking is key, always. We're all acli's, lol... You did notice you responded to someone who's name is "jack and coke"? LOL...
Jack & Coke Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I bs sometimes on here and off line, but I do have a conciense. This woman seemed very nice, I knew I could get laid if I wanted to, that's enough browny points for me... after texting back and fourth the other day I just texted her that I was going to pass on this online dating thing and good luck to her dating.. she asked if I had met someone else, I said no...and told her I wasn't in the mode right now for a relationship (I was NOT going to tell her I didn't really like her that much, that's would've been screwed up for her). I told her we obviously had a great time and there was chemistry, but I didn't see it going long term and didn't want to go out a few more times just to sleep with her when I wasn't into it long term.. She responded and I quote "As a woman that is VERY much appreciated , thanks".. I guess you gotta know who and when to just get laid, she seemed way too nice to do that to her... We're all acli's, lol... You did notice you responded to someone who's name is "jack and coke"? LOL... hahahahaha
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