shawn923 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Hi all, ive been posting here for awhile, and just last night decided to put my foot down and go full NC with my ex girlfriend who dumped me... were both go to the same college, shes 20 im 22. she dumped me about 2 months ago because i was insecure... i thought it was minor but she wasnt having it. anywho, i pretty much made every mistake possible last 2 months, begged her back, cried, shower her with gifts, and they all failed... she just said "i dont give second chances" even though i thought i was pretty minor problem i could fix. i ended up asking her about the relationship over the weekend and she still was giving me the same answer. "i dont give second chances"... when i ask why, when i can change, she NEVER has an answer... so thats pretty much where our last convo left off. So last night, i erased her off fb, which was a big part of our relationship. and in school i see her randomly A LOT, so im gonna walk the other way and do my best to totally avoid her... SO, am i doing everything right so far? what exactly should be my NEXT step? what should i or shouldn't i expect? Is there anyway this is salvageable? what does she mean by "i dont give second chances" and not explaining why?
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Hi all, ive been posting here for awhile, and just last night decided to put my foot down and go full NC with my ex girlfriend who dumped me... were both go to the same college, shes 20 im 22. she dumped me about 2 months ago because i was insecure... i thought it was minor but she wasnt having it. anywho, i pretty much made every mistake possible last 2 months, begged her back, cried, shower her with gifts, and they all failed... she just said "i dont give second chances" even though i thought i was pretty minor problem i could fix. i ended up asking her about the relationship over the weekend and she still was giving me the same answer. "i dont give second chances"... when i ask why, when i can change, she NEVER has an answer... so thats pretty much where our last convo left off. So last night, i erased her off fb, which was a big part of our relationship. and in school i see her randomly A LOT, so im gonna walk the other way and do my best to totally avoid her... SO, am i doing everything right so far? what exactly should be my NEXT step? what should i or shouldn't i expect? Is there anyway this is salvageable? what does she mean by "i dont give second chances" and not explaining why? you got to put your foot down bro. right now shes thinking "i can do whatever i want." as oddly as this sounds people like it when others suffer. you're suffering by begging and crying(ive done all of this). NC is gonna hurt like hell but trust me bro you can do it. eventually she'll wanna talk whether it be just to see whatsup. NC is the way to go bro. im doing NC right now with my ex who said she doesnt feel the same way anymore. i did all the begging, crying, promising change, all that haha. ive been going NC for about 3 days now. last time we talked we ended at a huge argument which left me pouring my heart out to her and all i got back was "alright, goodnight." with this i wanted to say that all girls are pretty much the same and YOU CAN GO NC. good luck haha
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 oh and another suggestion about the passing her in school. walk by her and just stare at a point at the ceiling. that way it looks like you're oblivious to her even being there. i do this and out of the corner of my eye i see my ex just watching me.
Author shawn923 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 oh and another suggestion about the passing her in school. walk by her and just stare at a point at the ceiling. that way it looks like you're oblivious to her even being there. i do this and out of the corner of my eye i see my ex just watching me. lmao thats wassup... i know how to handle awkward situations like that
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 lmao thats wassup... i know how to handle awkward situations like that yeah trust me as times goes on it'll get better. how long did you guys date?
PegNosePete Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 walk by her and just stare at a point at the ceiling. that way it looks like you're oblivious to her even being there. i do this and out of the corner of my eye i see my ex just watching me. LOL, you know she is probably telling her friends, "he was pretending to look at the ceiling but I could see him looking at me out the corner of his eye".... Good luck to you both keep up the good work but try to avoid even checking to see if she's looking at you!
radiodarcy Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Hi all, ive been posting here for awhile, and just last night decided to put my foot down and go full NC with my ex girlfriend who dumped me... were both go to the same college, shes 20 im 22. she dumped me about 2 months ago because i was insecure... i thought it was minor but she wasnt having it. anywho, i pretty much made every mistake possible last 2 months, begged her back, cried, shower her with gifts, and they all failed... she just said "i dont give second chances" even though i thought i was pretty minor problem i could fix. i ended up asking her about the relationship over the weekend and she still was giving me the same answer. "i dont give second chances"... when i ask why, when i can change, she NEVER has an answer... so thats pretty much where our last convo left off. So last night, i erased her off fb, which was a big part of our relationship. and in school i see her randomly A LOT, so im gonna walk the other way and do my best to totally avoid her... SO, am i doing everything right so far? what exactly should be my NEXT step? what should i or shouldn't i expect? Is there anyway this is salvageable? what does she mean by "i dont give second chances" and not explaining why? good for you for starting NC! for me the last frontier is IM - - we used to talk on there every day. i couldn't bring myself to delete him. but he's actively looking for a gf now. so i simply don't log in anymore. the last thing i want to do i log in and see his status saying "got a date with girl with a bangin body tonite!" or "my new gf is totally awesome!". to me i'd rather go through the pain of NC than see something like that! as for her saying she doesn't give second chances and refusing to explain why -- i'd give it no more thought. simply take it at face value and stick to NC. whatever answer she gives isn't going to help you anyway. just act like you don't care and live your life. she's just playing games. don't indulge her. your next step is to simply take it day by day and find other activities to focus on. good luck!
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 LOL, you know she is probably telling her friends, "he was pretending to look at the ceiling but I could see him looking at me out the corner of his eye".... Good luck to you both keep up the good work but try to avoid even checking to see if she's looking at you! i dont mean like stare above you lol. like look at a distant point which may be part of the ceiling. it looks like your head is up high and your oblivious to them lol. i knew someone would get this wrong
Author shawn923 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 i dont mean like stare above you lol. like look at a distant point which may be part of the ceiling. it looks like your head is up high and your oblivious to them lol. i knew someone would get this wrong lmao u guys are crazy... I thought i was the only one pulling these tricks off lmao.
Author shawn923 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 UPDATE: i totally avoided her so far today... until i was in the lunchroom, and she walked into there cuz she musta left class late. as soon as i saw her we made eye contact for like a split second then i went back to my laptop... as she was sittin down across the room, i was packing up and leaving... i left the lunch room immediately and went to class early NOW... AS SOON as i get to class, SHE texts me! Saying "As soon as I come you leave".... ive yet to reply. it happend literally 10 mins ago. what to think of this???
betterdeal Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 I'd delete that text. Give it at least 6 months before you converse with her. In fact give it long enough to get to the point where you feel no strong feelings for her. In the meantime, treat yourself well and enjoy yourself.
radiodarcy Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 UPDATE: i totally avoided her so far today... until i was in the lunchroom, and she walked into there cuz she musta left class late. as soon as i saw her we made eye contact for like a split second then i went back to my laptop... as she was sittin down across the room, i was packing up and leaving... i left the lunch room immediately and went to class early NOW... AS SOON as i get to class, SHE texts me! Saying "As soon as I come you leave".... ive yet to reply. it happend literally 10 mins ago. what to think of this??? i know this isn't going to be easy but dont respond. she's trying to get your goat. it's not worth breaking NC over that.
Author shawn923 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 I'd delete that text. Give it at least 6 months before you converse with her. In fact give it long enough to get to the point where you feel no strong feelings for her. In the meantime, treat yourself well and enjoy yourself. WOW 6 months? i didnt wanna put no time limit on my NC... i just wanted to let u guys know about the text i just got.... and whats its meaning...
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 WOW 6 months? i didnt wanna put no time limit on my NC... i just wanted to let u guys know about the text i just got.... and whats its meaning... shes realizing what she just left. dont text her back. tell us if she text you again.
Author shawn923 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 shes realizing what she just left. dont text her back. tell us if she text you again. K. Im most def up for letting u guys in on our story... it just so happened the same day i delete her off fb, she all of sudden wonders why i left as soon as she came in... charlie sheen voice *WINNING*
Author shawn923 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 i know this isn't going to be easy but dont respond. she's trying to get your goat. it's not worth breaking NC over that. I know... i understand the concept of NC. Its just sticking to it is whats soooo hard... but i got this
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 I know... i understand the concept of NC. Its just sticking to it is whats soooo hard... but i got this its the hardest thing ever for the time being. but it gets easy.
Author shawn923 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 UPDATE: she just text AGAIN... Saying "ok dont answer" SO im still not gonna reply am i on the right track?
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 UPDATE: she just text AGAIN... Saying "ok dont answer" SO im still not gonna reply am i on the right track? bro keep it chill haha. dont text back.
Layzie89 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Funny how when you're not giving her any attention, all of a sudden she's responding to you huh shawn? Keep it up, don't budge. You're in control now.
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Funny how when you're not giving her any attention, all of a sudden she's responding to you huh shawn? Keep it up, don't budge. You're in control now. 2nd what this guy said. do you plan to get back with her?
Author shawn923 Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 2nd what this guy said. do you plan to get back with her? Yea layzie i see... and yes josh, i do plan, or want, to get back with her. But i know i have to accept that it might not happen... why exactly do u ask? am i still on the right path?
Author shawn923 Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 UPDATE: I was finishing practice about a hour ago in the gym. And i was waiting on my friends to get dressed, and 2 mins before everybodies dressed, HERE she comes. My ex came into the gym and i was textin. I looked over and saw that it was her and we almost made slight eye contact... enough for it to be known she def saw me and vice versa. So i simply walked out the door to the gym since i was about to leave anyway and i was right next to it... SO thats the second time today i saw her. And at first i was thinkin maybe it looked like im running from her, but i looked at it this way; I was at both spots FIRST. both times when she shouldnt have even been where i was. and besides, if it looks to her as if im hiding from her, who cares, ive already cried in front of u... its not like seeing me leave everytime she comes around is gonna make her NOT want me even more... So am i still on the right track? I mean i was leaving the gym anyway and we left in a big pack of ppl... it just so happend to be timed up perfectly, 5 secs when she came in, saw me, then I left... so thats 2 texts i HAVENT replied to and twice i saw her and left the room...
joshextreme Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 UPDATE: I was finishing practice about a hour ago in the gym. And i was waiting on my friends to get dressed, and 2 mins before everybodies dressed, HERE she comes. My ex came into the gym and i was textin. I looked over and saw that it was her and we almost made slight eye contact... enough for it to be known she def saw me and vice versa. So i simply walked out the door to the gym since i was about to leave anyway and i was right next to it... SO thats the second time today i saw her. And at first i was thinkin maybe it looked like im running from her, but i looked at it this way; I was at both spots FIRST. both times when she shouldnt have even been where i was. and besides, if it looks to her as if im hiding from her, who cares, ive already cried in front of u... its not like seeing me leave everytime she comes around is gonna make her NOT want me even more... So am i still on the right track? I mean i was leaving the gym anyway and we left in a big pack of ppl... it just so happend to be timed up perfectly, 5 secs when she came in, saw me, then I left... so thats 2 texts i HAVENT replied to and twice i saw her and left the room... if you want to get back with her you should text her saying like "why does it matter?" then dont text back after that for a few days. let her ponder on "why it matters." cause obviously shes noticing you and caring
Author shawn923 Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 UPDATE: she just text again saying :so your not talking anymore? lemme know and ill stop" im gonna reply this time... and say "oh no im not ignoring you..."
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