Dorkykitty82 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Hi I am new to this but I am just looking for some perspective on this situation. So thanks in advance! I have been seeing this guy since November. We met on an adult dating site. I didn't really plan on meeting a guy on that site. Just was on there out of boredom. But then I got a response from him and we actually clicked right away which was quite surprising. The fact that it is an adult dating site made me question at first whether or not that's all he was looking for. But we dated for a couple months til anything sexually happened so that made me believe he actually really liked me. At the time he told me that he was not looking to get into anything to serious to fast because he got out of a bad relationship a few months back. I was fine with that I am more then happy to get to know him and see where it goes. And everything had been going great we had really great chemistry. Well it has been almost 6 months now that we have been seeing each other. We talk on the phone all the time, he was always calling me. We also spend a lot of time together when we can. He has a lot going on with school, work and his daughter. And he usually manages to make time to spend with me. The last time I saw him was on Thursday morning after having a really fun night of talking and playing video games at his place. I didn't hear from him for the rest of the day. I called him on Friday but he didn't answer. The day went on and no return call. Texted him saturday got nothing back. Then on Monday he called, well sort of. It rang a couple times but then went to being missed. Then no call back. I tried calling him later in the day but the phone rang a little bit but never went to voicemail. I am just wondering why I haven't heard from him all of a sudden It is not like him to not return calls.There were no indications that anything was wrong. Any incite on this would be most helpful. Thank you:)
snug.bunny Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 The fact that it is an adult dating site At the time he told me that he was not looking to get into anything to serious to fast because he got out of a bad relationship a few months backThe above, is insight concerning his behavior and/or lack of action on his part. Casual contact, casual dating and casual sex is what he is able to offer at this point.
Author Dorkykitty82 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 The above, is insight concerning his behavior and/or lack of action on his part. Casual contact, casual dating and casual sex is what he is able to offer at this point. Yeah I can see what you mean. That is not quite a site to go and meet someone that you expect to want something more then just casual. But it wasn't casual really. We had become really close. And really comfortable with each other. It wasn't like i occasionally heard from him or we occasionally saw each other. He would call a lot and we would talk for hours and we use to see each other almost everyday. And we didn't always sleep together. Just came as a surprise after all of that to just not hear from him.
snug.bunny Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 True. But I guess that also poses the question, why were you on an adult dating site if you're wanting someone more substantial? As for him, I am sure he does enjoy spending time with you (with or without sex) and it sounds like he does. Even if he was in regular contact with you, the fact remains, he told you he recently ended a bad relationship and didn't want a serious relationship (which he may have told you after you slept together or after you brought it up...??) so he is not in the proper frame of mind to provide the type of emotional support/investment and intimacy beyond "casual".
Author Dorkykitty82 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 I was on the site out of boredom. I had never actually met anyone from it. Never really planned on it either really. We had talked about what we wanted. He said he wanted to get to know me and see where it goes, and that he liked me a lot. But didn't want to sprint into relationship to fast. But that was was back in December, January. But then the last couple months seemed he got more serious. I had been wanting to talk about it with him again. And then all of a sudden no word from him. But I didn't tell him i was planning on a talk about it. And I was actually sort of fine with the relationship as it had been going. Just not sure why he stopped contacting me.
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