paiger Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 You may say it's similar to getting over a normal breakup, but... what if it was distance that brought you guys apart? I know some of you helpless romantics will tell me all these cliche's like "true love will stand the test of time" or "anything is possible" blah blah all that jazz. But in reality, long distance just isn't cut out for some people. i mean we have to agree, it sucks BIG time not physically being there all the time with the one who holds your heart. And when two people break up just because of distance... how do you get over something like that? I feel like you have to sort of paint some negative facade of them thinking why they weren't the ones for you but... thats all smoke and mirrors. I feel like I could go through my life normally, but still... At the back of my mind, I always have this feeling about "the one that got away".
HeavenOrHell Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Are you saying you have split up, or that it's a possibility because you can't (understandably) handle the distance? I've come close to ending it at times, not purely the distance but other things which were making the distance harder to deal with, we're sorting those problems out now, so I feel I can handle the distance, if there was no end in sight then I couldn't, so talking about the future is crucial to me. If we were to split up because of the distance I would be heartbroken, same as any other r/ship, the only plus side would be it's easier to go NC as you rarely see them anyway. I kept seeing my (local) ex when we split and it delayed moving on. I would feel incredibly frustrated if it were just the distance breaking us up, it would feel like we love each other too much be apart but cant be together for a while yet, too painful to keep it going, but so painful to walk away Long distance isn't for everybody and I've worried it's not for me, time will tell I guess. I would feel it was a terrible waste of something special if we split over the distance. You may say it's similar to getting over a normal breakup, but... what if it was distance that brought you guys apart? I know some of you helpless romantics will tell me all these cliche's like "true love will stand the test of time" or "anything is possible" blah blah all that jazz. But in reality, long distance just isn't cut out for some people. i mean we have to agree, it sucks BIG time not physically being there all the time with the one who holds your heart. And when two people break up just because of distance... how do you get over something like that? I feel like you have to sort of paint some negative facade of them thinking why they weren't the ones for you but... thats all smoke and mirrors. I feel like I could go through my life normally, but still... At the back of my mind, I always have this feeling about "the one that got away".
heartshaped Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 For any relationship to work, it has to be right person, right time, right circumstance. I think it's easier to get over a breakup when you know it wasn't the right person because no matter if it was a different time or situation things still wouldn't have worked out. When you have to breakup with someone because it isn't the right time in your life or it isn't the right circumstance for you [like long distance] it is a lot harder to deal with. I think the only thing you can do is accept that you and/or your partner couldn't handle things and this was the best thing for the both of you and to move on.
folieadeux Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 A breakup is a breakup regardless; they all are painful in some way.
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