chelle21689 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 I met this guy through a mutual friend a couple weeks ago and we've been talking every night. I thought he was cute but as I got to know him I found him extremely attractive. He seems to be a very good guy, smart, very adventurous, sense of humor, open-minded, and active. He sees something he wants and goes for it. He wants to learn something and he'll learn it quick. The only thing that bothers me is that when we talk he isn't very opinionated. I'm not a very opinionated person either...my ex and friends are OPINIONATED people and I think a lot of the times it balances us out and makes a conversation interesting. I feel like I'm some what of the "leader" in the conversation if that makes any sense...and I'm not used to being one since I was always a 'listener'. So here's two people that aren't very opinionated...lol. We can talk for a few hours each night but honestly the conversation doesn't flow as well as when I talk to opinionated people that have a lot of things to say. I feel like me and this guy are a lot alike in our personality. It sucks too cuz I like everything else about him! What should I do? Should I just wait and see? Some people say that it takes a while for their other side to come out... and some people say it'll bring out my more "leader" side and level things out.
welikeincrowds Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 You don't have to have an answer yet. Exploring what it's like to be with this person is half the fun. Eventually you'll have a clearer understanding of whether or not you like the role you take when you are with him.
Author chelle21689 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 Honestly, I wonder if it has to do with my ex. I was with my ex for 5 years and I got out of the relationship about 3 months ago. I'm over my ex and ready to move on. This guy is a complete opposite of my ex. My ex could talk for an hour about a piece of string, he's loud, the center of attention, and forward. The guy I'm seeing is more reserved but pushes conversation, he's laid back, he jokes around, and is more polite. I wonder if I'm just used to hearing my ex talk for hours on end while I listen. I hope that with this guy it'll level out cuz I'm really attracted and he's a good guy which is so hard to find now a days!.
Jack & Coke Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 You don't have to have an answer yet. Exploring what it's like to be with this person is half the fun. Eventually you'll have a clearer understanding of whether or not you like the role you take when you are with him. Exactly. It's still really early, so for now just enjoy the ride. You'll have plenty of time to analyze things later. File this thought in your back pocket and let things grow naturally. Let the picture develop by itself.
sugarmomma Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Don't worry too much about it since the guy I'm dating now is extremely opinionated and bordering on dogmatic. So the fact that you guys can talk for hours without getting argumentative is a good thing. I had to catch myself with him and completely back off since I don't like to debate things like politics and or religion. Take is easy and just enjoy him.
Author chelle21689 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 (edited) Honestly, I'm the type that hates being disappointed dating a guy I'm attracted to...especially if he is a good guy. He seems to really like me. I have a bad habit of worrying about the future wayyy ahead of myself! But honestly, what do you guys think about our personalities? I mean can a less opinionated+ less opinionated person work? He's very different from the guys I've dated. All guys would be groping me by now and trying to make out! Edited March 16, 2011 by chelle21689
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