RomoGuy Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 (edited) Ive been reading alot of stories on here about people saying their exes "fell out of love" or "lost feelings for them"... now what is the difference when a girl tells you in the breakup letter. "These last five months have been the happiest of my life. I have learned to love like I never thought possible. Your an amazing man!" " I will always think of you as a wonderful gentleman that I loved very much! I love you!" "I love you, but the love that fills my heart to over flowing for you won't keep us together through the thick and then unless we are both full of the Holy Spirit" "I will be missing you! I pray God takes you to be the amazing incredible man you are meant to be. I want the best for you and I believe in you very very much!" there are alot of " I LOVE YOU's" in there for someone that broke up with me, lol.. I am a Christian myself, as was she. Guess I wasn't "Christian" enough for her. Are the chances, down the road, any better for reconciliation if the person still loved you during the breakup or still has feelings? Edited March 16, 2011 by RomoGuy
arnabsuave Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 well a fortnight before my girl brokeup with me she was like "the times i'm spending with you are by far the best times of my lyf"...and then bang!!! she treated me like **** post-breakup...said she was such stupid to have thought of spending the entire life with me... I'm still to come to terms with it...always keep on thinking as to what pissed her off so much.. guess the word 'commitment' doesn't hold much importance to a girl these days...
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 well a fortnight before my girl brokeup with me she was like "the times i'm spending with you are by far the best times of my lyf"...and then bang!!! she treated me like **** post-breakup...said she was such stupid to have thought of spending the entire life with me... I'm still to come to terms with it...always keep on thinking as to what pissed her off so much.. guess the word 'commitment' doesn't hold much importance to a girl these days... Seriously! I remember seeing a post from my ex on facebook saying "I love you so much lets be together forever" and then 2 days later we're done. Ridiculous
arnabsuave Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 and they(our ex) are so much happy and unfazed in their lives...as if we didnt ever exist...
pal86 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 She may come back around but it depends on how easily she can swallow her pride. There is always a chance of a reunion, I believe anyway and by the sounds of it she was slightly confused and isn't completely letting go. Just be wary. It does look like an excuse. Having that being told to you must be pretty difficult. What a way to play with your emotions. It’s pretty much like trying to guess when she was actually serious about loving you and then on the other hand just saying it for the sake of it. So she left you because you weren't as deep of a believer as she? Or were you a bit of a sinner?! The type of love one looks for their entire life has no boundaries. I have no problem loving someone who believes as long as there is understanding, acceptance and compromise. Skin colour, religion, money doesn't factor into true love. She needs to accept you for who you are, if she needs to use excuses then she’s jerking your chain. Maybe the ‘love’ she is talking about is simply a word she feels the need to use and not an emotion she is actually feeling
TryTryAgain Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Wow, RomoGuy. That is some tough stuff. My ex said some similar things to me. Her sentiments were how great of a man I am and how I'm going to make some girl so happy some day. I really think when the dumper says things like this, they are truly trying to soften the blow for the dumpee, but at the same time ease their own conscience for dumping a perfectly good guy. In theory, it's much easier for them to move on because they feel like they've made their exit on the high road. In terms of the "Holy Spirit" comment, I'm not even sure where to go on that one. Perhaps that is her fancy way of saying that God's plan doesn't include you two being together. I wouldn't read into it too much that she doesn't think you're spiritual enough. Again, I just think she's trying to soften the blow. In terms of future reconciliation, I can only speak from my experience on this matter. My ex has come back twice! She broke up with me both times, but ultimately ended up coming back under the guise that either she was scared or she didn't know how good she had it until I was gone. Each time we have reconciled, she has only been able to keep it up for about a month when she slips back into the mode of "we just aren't right for each other." Call it a horrible case of GIGS or whatever, the bottom line is history keeps repeating itself and I'm not sure how much more of it I can take. I should also add that when another ex broke up with me in college (9 years ago), she said over and over again how much she loved me during the breakup. She moved across the country and just moved back last year. She has expressed her love for me and hinted at getting back a few times recently. Trouble is, I got over her a few years back. It took me a better part of my 20s to get over her, but I did. My romantic feelings for her have faded. I feel what you are going through right now. It's not a fun place to be in.
Author RomoGuy Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 I truly believe she sincerely loved me. She never took advantage of me, never gave me a reason to be jealous, treated me as a king... and I did her. See here is what comes more apparent to after the breakup which I ignored a bit during the relationship. She is some what of a hypocrite, especially when it comes to religion. She did not live in any way more spiritually than me. There are no sins that I commited that would have led her to believe she is better to me spiritually (except in the past before meeting her, which she said she had forgiven me for, but I dont believe)... There is 3rd party influence from her father for sure. Her whole family loved me and thought we were going to get married for sure. But her father was somewhat 2 faced. I know he had part of this. She almost acted like I was holding her back and that I didn't encourage her to be a better christian, when in fact I helped her out more than one person should. If you can't progress in your religion, its no ones fault but yourself. I never held her back, but encouraged us to go to church more and stop hanging out with friends that brought us down. Sure enough she started dating a guy her father knew almost immediately after the breakup. Which leads me to believe they were all excuses... but either way, the way she was living was not corresponding with the way she said she was or wanted to live. I am a christian, like ive said. And the fact that you think you are more religious than someone else who doesn't live in anyway more unreligious than you, makes you a hypocrite.
marqueemoon4 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 you all are lucky.. my stbx said our 8yrs together "had its moments".
joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 and they(our ex) are so much happy and unfazed in their lives...as if we didnt ever exist... thats exactly what my ex is like. like shes living the dream haha
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