ctx2 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 I got strong about 3 weeks ago and made the pledge to be NC. But 2 weeks ago, I found out I was pregnant and yes the baby is his. I was so confused about so much, but I had my annual scheduled for the following week (last week) and informed my doc about the situation. Of course, he wanted to run tons of blood work because I couldn't be sure that my ex was 100% STD free and I wanted to make sure everything was okay. I was even more concerned because I had been on the pill which I know is not 100% effective, but come on! What are the chances? My doc called the next day and informed me that he had some concerns about my blood work so I went to his office and we discussed it. It turns out I have what is called APLS (antiphospholipid syndrome) which is a auto immune problem and basically means that my body will somewhat attack the fetus. Because I have no history of blood clots, the standard treatment can be aspirin, but the more extensive treatment is anticoagulants which have their own risks because I have a low platelet count. I haven't told the ex because I can't decided if I should risk the more extensive treatment or do the standard...I have a daughter to consider and standard is safer for her, but it means the baby only has a 20% chance at survival. Should I even include my ex? This would be his first born. I'm about 8 weeks and him and I split 6 weeks ago. I'm so confused as to what to do.
Olivexx Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Wow, you are such a strong person and I hope you continue to be strong for your daughter! Having to go through this situation must be very difficult for you. It's a personal choice on whether or not you want to tell him. Did you love him? Was he a significant part of your life? If you feel that he deserves to know, then you should tell him. He may even want to be there for you and support you. You really shouldn't go through this alone. But if you feel like you really don't want him around or he wasn't a significant part of your life, and if you feel like telling him wouldn't do much anyways, you don't have to tell him. It's just all up to you and what your gut tells you to do.
depplover_1980 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 You need to seek out professional abortion advice and support to discuss your options. This is such a sensitive subject that you need advising by the correct people who are non-biased with all the facts. This is an awful position to be in right now and my personal opinion is that you shouldn't speak to him yet until you decide what to do - we will no doubt support you on how to proceed with that when the time comes. I really don't think people on here should influence your decision at all, it needs to be made by you with the help of those who love/know you best.
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