Caitlin Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Last weekend, I was in a motorscooter accident that left me bloodied and bruised, but in one piece. My boyfriend of one year picked me up for breakfast the next day and bought me groceries that evening. He then had to return to work to complete the business taxes, a task which will take most of his time for the next week. I though I was doing OK, but have been having flashbacks to what happened and am in pain, and found myself wishing for emotional support that night. I called him and asked if he could come back for a bit (work is ten minutes away.) He said no. Beyond that, he said I am self-absorbed and abusive, apparently for asking him for support in crisis. I feel like he just doesn't want to be there for me or protect my well-being. Whenever I try to explain what I need to be happy, he says I am treating him like a vendor, and if I don't get what I want from him, I will look for someone else. I don't see it that way--I think it is reasonable to have discussions about what makes you happy and secure in a relationship with a partner. He also said that he doesn't see any evidence I care about him, which is ridiculous since I am nice to him every day. He is the one who is always preoccupied with work. Obviously, he has a lot of resentment about times I've asked for support in the past. I still don't feel like what I've asked for is wrong. At this point, I don't know if there is anything to save. I am going to let him be until he is finished with the taxes, and see if he contacts me. I don't like feeling so misunderstood, but we have had good times over the past year. Perhaps his anger is due to stress about work. I just don't understand why we can't both support each other and get the things we need to do done.
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