Ruby Slippers Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 How do you feel about "I'd take us/suggest we go back to my place, but it's like 45 (whatever) minutes away." That leaves her open to suggest her place, or to say "I DON'T MIND :D" or if you're not doing as well as you thought, it gives her a graceful exit. Ding ding ding! We have a winner. This is what I was going to say. I am really glad to hear you're back in the game, Hokie. Have fun!
Ruby Slippers Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Suggest some kind of activity you two can do at her place. Maybe you have a bottle of wine in the trunk that you haven't tried before and want to ask her if she's game. Maybe she mentioned a movie that she has on NetFlix earlier in the night. You can mention it subtly, in a "I'm not going to bed any time soon so if you're still trying to chill..." tone. No pressure and good transition. Yes, this is good.
ReturnToSender Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 How do you feel about "I'd take us/suggest we go back to my place, but it's like 45 (whatever) minutes away." That leaves her open to suggest her place, or to say "I DON'T MIND :D" or if you're not doing as well as you thought, it gives her a graceful exit. I don't know, it's kind of an awkward position to begin with. You sort of want to have this one accounted for. Thats what worked on me with a guy once... it was super late and we were kind of talking, ready to leave where we were at but not ready to go home, and the tension was high if you know what I mean He said hed invite me over for coffee, but he lived xxmin away and thats a long way to go for coffee. And I said, apparently you dont have a clue how much I like coffee. ...he didnt get around to making me coffee til morning
sugarmomma Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 I guess my real question is, especially to the ladies, do you feel that it is the guy's "responsibility" to basically invite himself over to your place, or is it something you'd rather do yourself? I'd rather invite him over instead of him just inviting himself over to MY place. You could just ask her what she wants to do towards the end of the date and see where it goes. Don't invite yourself over to her place and if she invites you don't assume that you're getting laid. Good Luck!!
johan Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Of course, and with Enter Sandman playing in the background. Tyler, by The Toadies. I find a window in the kitchen and I let myself in Rummage through the refrigerator, find myself a beer I can't believe I'm really here and she's lying in that bed I can almost feel her touch and her anxious breath I stumble in the hallway, outside her bedroom door I hear her call out to me, I hear the fear in her voice She pulls the covers tighter, I press against the door I will be with her tonight, yeah
Gold Pile Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 As long as you are advancing somewhat date to date the invite will come. If I was in your position the next date would definitely be in my neck of the woods. Just invite her to meet you at your house before the date, so the date will end at your place no matter what, totally makes it easy to invite her up for some reason. You seem like you could come up with something to get her upstairs. My feeling is if you can get her upstairs its super easy to close the deal. I think girls don't make the first moves enough when you start dating. Us guys have to figure all the "signals" they give out, but really we are simple creatures and we want some action we become even more one tracked so it is even harder for us to pick up the signals you ladies give off. Girls wont make the first moves for the fear of "looking like a slut" now this totally isn't the case for most guys who are interested in the girl. Keep it simple, forget all the plans, signals and options. When the date ends at the door (yours or hers, doesn't matter) just do what TigressA said. No akward signal exchange, just gather her in your arms and kiss her. If she's pleased...give her another. If she is trying to get away....backoff. If she seems undecided....give her another kiss.
da-man Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 (edited) The following advice applies to DATE #2---meet for a drink at local pub type bar for an hour or two to talk more and flirt more... ( same as Date #1)- you meet her there- do not pick her up yet----but find a cool place close to where she lives! first things first, don't be a wimp!--Scene: your drinking talking flirting having some fun ...you gotta stroke her body, thighs, hair, kiss her neck, whisper something sexy in her...see if she gives affection back to you--test the chemistry again ( hopefully all is great like date #1 was ) --As the date winds down....AND all during the date--be subtle but confident and seductive- hypnotic..don't fawn all over her but give some smooth moves to ponder to stoke her twat fire....work on it.... Hopefully she'll suggest her place-- or YOU suggest her place --to go back there and do a few shots of tequila ( ya know...the Patron that you have in your trunk) or some champagne or smoke a joint - something like that...--if she doesn't invite you or says no---you got no chemistry anyway---so move on you aint getting laid by her, ever! don't waste your time she's a stick in the mud...if she does invite you -or says hell yes when you invite yourself- you got chemistry! ----simple--- problem solved-- gotta be bold with these women - they like that---- Hint: when you talk to women and begin the seduction process THINK like you've known them a long time like they are already your girlfriend...it will help to loosen you up and not act like a wimpy puss. Edited March 16, 2011 by da-man
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