AA11390 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 My ex and I broke up from a 3 year relationship about 3 months ago. About 1 month ago, I started talking with this new girl. Things are progressing at a slow but steady pace with this new girl, and I am loving it. However, I do still get these random sessions of thought about my ex. It doesn't happen much, mostly when I see new pictures of her on facebook, and seeing these things bothers me. I don't know if its because I am not over her yet, or if its because her pictures give the impression that her life is more fun now than when we were together. Either way, it bothers me. Anyway, since the break up I have been very self conscience about a lot of things I do while dating this new girl. I do truly believe that I am developing feelings for this new girl, and I would like to build a steady relationship with her but idk if it's a good idea to just yet because I feel that I am still left with some kind of hole from my past relationship. Is it unfair of me to progress things to new levels with this new girl if I am uncertain that I'm over my ex, or will this new girl fill the holes that currently reside in me? I am not afraid to take chances that can end in pain for me, but I most definitely don't want to hurt this new girl, and I personally don't feel that I am in a secure enough emotional state at this point to say for sure that I wont hurt her. What should I do?
Emilia Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 take yourself off your ex's facebook and see how you feel a week later. until you are able to put a very clear distance between her and yourself you will struggle
betterdeal Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I agree. Disconnect on Facebook. Block her from your account and unfriend her. When a relationship ends there are wounds that need healing, and keeping in touch during the healing period is just picking at the scabs. Whether or not you and this new woman in your life develop further, healing those wounds is good for you, and it will make it more likely that you develop a healthy, enjoyable relationship with your new girlfriend. Letting go of the past helps us to live in the present
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