joshextreme Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago and I feel as if it was the dumbest decision of my life. We argued a lot and never took the time to really talk about our problems. Long story short we got upset and mutually broke it off. Even laughed afterwards. A day later I started to realize how much i'd miss her. Ever since then I have wanted to get back together and she keeps saying that its not right and that we're better off apart. I surely don't feel that. Every time I try to be friends it goes good a few days until she'll say something about another guy and it'll just kill me inside and then I get mad and pour my feelings out to her which we then don't talk for a week. Its been about 3 days since me and her have had an episode where I just tell her why I love her so much. I know shes talking to other guys and actually has a date this weekend. Alls I want is a chance back with her but I have no idea what to do anymore. She was more than my girlfriend but my bestfriend. In my process of trying to "get over" her I blocked her on facebook and don't know if that was a good idea. I will do anything to have her back with me. I really dont want to get over cause I know i love her with all my heart. any advice, please? Btw this is my first post sorry if its in the wrong section
Author joshextreme Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 (edited) ALSO. My ex and I dated for a little over a year. Her reasons for not getting back with me is she doesn't feel for me in that way anymore. It's hard because I lover her so much. I'm pretty sure this date she has won't workout from what I've heard about this guy. ALSO.. sorry lol. I'm trying the no contact route and its been about 3 days. The longest we've gone without talking is 5 days and i usually cave in every time. Another edit.. (i feel as if i should get every detail in as i think of them) We mainly text each other since we're in high school and now since we broke up she wont even talk to me in person unless I'm dying. Ever since we've broken up our conversations have consisted of us talking and at the end of the convos I usually say I really enjoyed talking to you. But then a few days later my feelings will get the best of me and I'll tell her off about how much I actually care for her and how much I actually love her. She also knows I'm here for no matter what. I've stressed that a lot to her and she says the same. I want to take the no contact route but I'm not sure thats good. But also with the amount of times I said I want to talk which inevitably turn into me pouring my feelings out I don't think I have many other options. Please, any advice would be great. Edited March 15, 2011 by joshextreme
2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 You're coming across as needy and desperate no wonder she is shunning you, man forget her for a while, she'll be expecting you to call (after 5 days or so) and boost her feelings up a bit, while you feel bad and she goes on more dates. Once you forget her for a while, a month or so maybe more, maybe less even, she'll get curious and start calling. Don't give her the upper hand and be aloof if she does call, in the meantime ignore her, stay away from her if possible and try and have really no contact at all. Once you gain the upper hand she'll start chasing YOU - if that's what you want. NC is bloody hard, i've been at it 4 months, well LC but mainly NC so prepare yourself to move on and go with other girls. Doesn't mean you and her are written off just means things got in the way your doing your own thing and you may get back some day. As they say love hurts, now I know what they mean! 2011
Layzie89 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Yeah man, the first week of NC is the hardest. Give yourself some time, you'll find it gets easier and easier. Stop letting her know that you're there for her no matter what. 'People always want what they cannot have', heard of it? If she is under the impression that you're always going to be there for her, what would compel her to want to talk to you again. Take yourself away from her for a bit, stay strong brother.
Author joshextreme Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 (edited) Yeah, ok, thanks guys. Should I keep her blocked on facebook? Edited March 15, 2011 by joshextreme
Author joshextreme Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 You're coming across as needy and desperate no wonder she is shunning you, man forget her for a while, she'll be expecting you to call (after 5 days or so) and boost her feelings up a bit, while you feel bad and she goes on more dates. Once you forget her for a while, a month or so maybe more, maybe less even, she'll get curious and start calling. Don't give her the upper hand and be aloof if she does call, in the meantime ignore her, stay away from her if possible and try and have really no contact at all. Once you gain the upper hand she'll start chasing YOU - if that's what you want. NC is bloody hard, i've been at it 4 months, well LC but mainly NC so prepare yourself to move on and go with other girls. Doesn't mean you and her are written off just means things got in the way your doing your own thing and you may get back some day. As they say love hurts, now I know what they mean! 2011 how exactly do i get the upper hand? I also forgot to mention that we broke up once over the summer for 2 months because of being far away. what i did to get her back was NC.
Author joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 I decided to unblock her :/ well i just unblocked her and didnt friend her. i wanted her to be able to see my picture but nothing more. ughhh i want her back :/
arnabsuave Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago and I feel as if it was the dumbest decision of my life. We argued a lot and never took the time to really talk about our problems. Long story short we got upset and mutually broke it off. Even laughed afterwards. A day later I started to realize how much i'd miss her. Ever since then I have wanted to get back together and she keeps saying that its not right and that we're better off apart. I surely don't feel that. Every time I try to be friends it goes good a few days until she'll say something about another guy and it'll just kill me inside and then I get mad and pour my feelings out to her which we then don't talk for a week. Its been about 3 days since me and her have had an episode where I just tell her why I love her so much. I know shes talking to other guys and actually has a date this weekend. Alls I want is a chance back with her but I have no idea what to do anymore. She was more than my girlfriend but my bestfriend. In my process of trying to "get over" her I blocked her on facebook and don't know if that was a good idea. I will do anything to have her back with me. I really dont want to get over cause I know i love her with all my heart. any advice, please? Btw this is my first post sorry if its in the wrong section My situation just rhymes that of yours...had the same problems,and even the same time-frame of break-up...I have begged and pleaded but all our conversations end in bitterness as she goes on talking about getting a proposal from this guy and that... I'm now on 2 day NC...don't know if it will work out...All i know is that the pain of NC is unbearable
Author joshextreme Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 My situation just rhymes that of yours...had the same problems,and even the same time-frame of break-up...I have begged and pleaded but all our conversations end in bitterness as she goes on talking about getting a proposal from this guy and that... I'm now on 2 day NC...don't know if it will work out...All i know is that the pain of NC is unbearable it sucks a lot. in the end tho you either get over her or she comes back. so really its a win win situation.
arnabsuave Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 it sucks a lot. in the end tho you either get over her or she comes back. so really its a win win situation. yeah,that's what keeps me ticking...the feeling that i shall atleast get my life back at the end of NC...about her,i'm not sure....i still miss her like hell though... whenever i tried to recontact her by falling for the crumbs i ended up feeling like ****...so,NC is surely the way... the sun shall shine once more in all our lives and mend our broken hearts...
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