pandagirl Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 OK, I know I shouldn't be spying on my ex's new gf, but since the information was there, I couldn't help but snoop. Sue me, I'm human! Ever since finding out he jumped into this relationship right after breaking up with me, it's been like legit closure for me. The pain lasted for a couple of days, and then I got a real sense of closure -- which is good. His new girlfriend is almost a decade younger than me. She looks like an artsy pixie, into self-portraits, a huge pot smoker, exhibitionism and very sexual. She seems like a wild child, basically... which is completely opposite of me. So strange how he went from me: stable, dependable, modest and grounded to someone on the other end of the spectrum. I don't think this means necessarily anything, but it's interesting when people date the opposite type of their previous relationship.
Lilmisus Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 OK, I know I shouldn't be spying on my ex's new gf, but since the information was there, I couldn't help but snoop. Sue me, I'm human! Ever since finding out he jumped into this relationship right after breaking up with me, it's been like legit closure for me. The pain lasted for a couple of days, and then I got a real sense of closure -- which is good. His new girlfriend is almost a decade younger than me. She looks like an artsy pixie, into self-portraits, a huge pot smoker, exhibitionism and very sexual. She seems like a wild child, basically... which is completely opposite of me. So strange how he went from me: stable, dependable, modest and grounded to someone on the other end of the spectrum. I don't think this means necessarily anything, but it's interesting when people date the opposite type of their previous relationship. That is strange, but she's just a rebound for him. A complete opposite rebound who could barely remind him of you, which is probably what he needs right now. But you never know, there could be some common traits that you guys had. Sense of humor? Kind? Smart? Who knows.
Author pandagirl Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 That is strange, but she's just a rebound for him. A complete opposite rebound who could barely remind him of you, which is probably what he needs right now. But you never know, there could be some common traits that you guys had. Sense of humor? Kind? Smart? Who knows. I'm not saying anything negative about her -- I don't even know her. I'm sure she has a good sense of humor and is nice and interesting (just as I am ). Dunno know if she's a rebound. They've been together for five months now. I really do wish them the best, but when I started to put together the pieces of her personality, I was surprised that he is with someone so outwardly different from me.
Nexus One Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 (edited) Some guys like a wide palette of girls/women. They can have a range of multiple types of women that they like. Edited March 15, 2011 by Nexus One
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 he's very likely tappin' that artsy chick as you read this; meanwhile you're on a forum commenting about irrelevant info you shouldn't even have. get over it, love.
welikeincrowds Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 he's very likely tappin' that artsy chick as you read this; meanwhile you're on a forum commenting about irrelevant info you shouldn't even have. get over it, love. Do you really think that's going to help her?
Alma Mobley Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Hasn't he been texting "I miss you's" to you while with her? She's most likely a rebound.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Do you really think that's going to help her? I wanna be your new stalker
sniffys Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 well forgive me if im wrong but when u did post here that shes 180 to you and u listed her qualities and urs it does seem kind of a bit negative-ish, i mean, since u did say u didn't say anything neg. abt her
Kamille Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I've been racking my brain so as to figure out what to say on this topic, and everything I type seems gauche. You two were really serious and had a very deep emotional connection. Then **** hit the fan in his life and he couldn't handle the closeness anymore. It's possible that he 180ed to someone who he could keep at an emotional distance, much the same way he ended up shutting you out. All this really means it that he's changed and he isn't what you want anymore. But FYI: I think it's impossible to assess someone's personality from FB pictures. That's like saying you can tell how someone will be on a date from checking them out on PoF. We all know this isn't the case.
prettybaby Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I'm in a relationship with the exact opposite of my ex. There's a reason why he's my ex and why it didn't work out. This new relationship suits me so much better.
Author pandagirl Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 I've been racking my brain so as to figure out what to say on this topic, and everything I type seems gauche. You two were really serious and had a very deep emotional connection. Then **** hit the fan in his life and he couldn't handle the closeness anymore. It's possible that he 180ed to someone who he could keep at an emotional distance, much the same way he ended up shutting you out. All this really means it that he's changed and he isn't what you want anymore. But FYI: I think it's impossible to assess someone's personality from FB pictures. That's like saying you can tell how someone will be on a date from checking them out on PoF. We all know this isn't the case. Well, I actually collected this information from her personal blog that I found, so I feel it is a more accurate characterization of who she is than just some random party photos. In general she seems like a free-spirit. Also, she is young. In our relationship, there was a lot of talk about the future, babies, etc. Since I'm 32, those things were REAL and in the near horizon. I think, more than anything, that she relieved that pressure off of him, among other emotional responsibilities. They seem to have a relationship of going out a lot, drinking, etc.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Well, I actually collected this information from her personal blog that I found, so I feel it is a more accurate characterization of who she is than just some random party photos. In general she seems like a free-spirit. Also, she is young. In our relationship, there was a lot of talk about the future, babies, etc. Since I'm 32, those things were REAL and in the near horizon. I think, more than anything, that she relieved that pressure off of him, among other emotional responsibilities. They seem to have a relationship of going out a lot, drinking, etc. for your own good, panda, you gotta let all of it go. whatever you need to do to axe him in your mind, do that, and never look back. after all, there's never anything beneficial gained from doing what you're doing. it just delays the good times you should already be having, whether by yourself (emphasis added), with friends, or with somebody you're into. lose that url, rationalize them both as a-holes, and go have some fun. you must marginalize the time you spent together by upping the ante & replacing those memories with more awesome ones.
Andy_K Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Sounds to me like your relationship stopped being fun and started being just 'serious'. Or at least he may have seen it that way. He's probably with her because she puts the spark and excitement back into his life that he felt was missing.
Kamille Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Sounds to me like your relationship stopped being fun and started being just 'serious'. Or at least he may have seen it that way. He's probably with her because she puts the spark and excitement back into his life that he felt was missing. Which is another way to say that when the going got rough, he chose to bail. Which means, he's not ready for the kind of relationship Panda wanted. Long-Term-Relationships ebb and flow between good times filled with nothing but spark and excitement and serious times where you have to be willing to do the work (through communication, patience and understanding). Again, just proof that Panda and her ex weren't actually on the same page.
Author pandagirl Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 Which is another way to say that when the going got rough, he chose to bail. Which means, he's not ready for the kind of relationship Panda wanted. Long-Term-Relationships ebb and flow between good times filled with nothing but spark and excitement and serious times where you have to be willing to do the work (through communication, patience and understanding). Again, just proof that Panda and her ex weren't actually on the same page. Pretty much. And these things you mention? Communication, patience and understanding? He didn't score too high in those categories.
phillyfan Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Dude if it helps it sounds like ur ex had a bad break up, lotsa stress n pressure n bad times, so he wants fun, sexy no strings, young n uncomplicated, i doubt he wants a future wit anyone he dates rite now.
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