Olivexx Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Does anyone else have this problem? My ex and I just broke up and right after, he started emailing his ex (I snooped... ). It was all casual, but he ended his email with "I won't take time away from your spring break, but hit me up when you get back :)". The ex he emailed is the one I'm really sensitive about. They dated for about 3 years and lived together. He gave her a promise ring and I know that they had some sort of a plan for a future together I guess. They've been broken up for about 2 years now, and we have been dating for a little over a year now. During the time I dated, he told me he hated her and blah blah blah. He also still had her promise ring. Told me he couldn't sell it because it was just so expensive. This all just sounds bad...maybe he wasn't over her? Is this just an ego boost for him? I'm hurt, but it's my fault because I snooped. How do I handle this situation? I know I shouldn't read his emails anymore. This gives me the motivation to just move on. It's hard to do.
Trovador Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 This is the beauty of breaking up, your ex doesn't have the least right to reproach you for anything you do, nor ask you where you are, or prying into your life... Painful as it is, it's none of your business whom she is talking to or dating... Stalking or spying on an ex is like caving one's own tomb...
depplover_1980 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Who knows whether he was never over her. What are the reasons for you two splitting up? You need to get some willpower and stop snooping, it's not right for either of you.
Author Olivexx Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 I deleted him from FB so I wouldn't have to see what he was doing on a daily basis. And I'm going to try and just shrug the email off. It's unhealthy to keep thinking about what he's doing or who he is talking to. It's just so hard because when you're with someone for a long period of time, you're so use to knowing what they did at every hour of the day. So I think I just need to adjust to living by myself again and to be single. We broke up because we were fighting all the time. I was just so unhappy and it made him unhappy. It wasn't me being unhappy with him, it was more of a chemical imbalance, if you will.
Recommended Posts