saucymare Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 So, I am in love with my best friend's brother probably for about two years now. My best friend and her brother live together and have one of the closest sibling bond I've ever encountered. Their dad and grandma are also pretty cool, I've basically become adopted. When I left my home (because of abuse) I stayed with them for a month before moving to new york. I've been invited to Christmas dinner ever since going through that hard period of my life. I probably had a crush on this guy long before I actually admitted it to myself. We became close friends and talked about everything during my stays with them (for I had a lot of reasons to stay out of my own house). The past year of 2010 had been him and me hooking up unbeknownst to anyone especially his sister/ my best friend. Did I mention this guy is a total "womanizer" and probably an outgrown adolescent of whom all my other friends kinda think I should aim a little higher? But I do love him because like everyone there are qualities that sometimes outweigh what a huge jerk one can be. New year's we finally had sex where (as he's said before when sex wasn't involved) he said he loves me, thinks we match, thinks i'm so smart/funny/blah blah. Then a few nights later the three of us are at a bar and I find that he's had a threesome the night after we um ahem...so basically my two major questions are did he mean all of what he said and he just has his own problems to contend with or was it all lip service in order to get laid? Two, should I tell his sister/my best friend? I feel like I'm violating her trust I'm also nervous about her reaction. Is this something that should be treated as all water under the bridge and I should just live with my own feelings of self-loathing and not wrangle her into something that seems over and completely ****ed up? Also what the **** do I say to myself to make me feel better about this whole situation?
Datura Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 You said it yourself - he's a womanizer. He gets involved sexually with two other people the day after he beds you. No, that isn't love. That isn't even respect. Hopefully you used protection. As for the other issues, someone else can perhaps point you in the right direction.
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