walktheline Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 So I've been dating this girl for the about the past month, spent the night at her place a couple of times and we both have busy lives. We went out Friday night and I spent the night and wanted to see her last night if she was free since her best friend has decided to claim her for 4 nights this week, but she wanted a day to herself which was fine with me. Today she was off work and bought a new car. We texted back and forth this evening and she had casually mentioned depending how things went that we might get to see each other. Didn't hear from her for a couple of hours, but she texted me that she was at a bar near my place with the guy that she bought the car from since she knows him and was having some drinks. She invited me up, but I'm on-call for my work (paramedic) so no alcohol for me and I can't park the company response vehicle in the parking lot of a bar anyways. I told her that she could stop by if she wasn't too late, but she had to get home and pick her dog up from her parents when she was done. I said okay, no worries and told her to have a good night. She said maybe she'd see me tomorrow at a mutual friends dinner party, but again I have a work commitment I may have to teach at so not sure if that will happen. I guess I'm a little bugged that she'd rather go have drinks with this guy and not drive the 5 minutes down the road to stop by and say "hi". I know she invited me up, but still guess it bothers me a little that she didn't seem to interested in seeing me tonight. Am I being stupid and paranoid or what? Opinions?
Lilmisus Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Yeah, you're being paranoid. She knew this guy and probably doesn't seem him often (if at all) and wanted to catch up with him over some drinks. She's dating you, and so she could see you some other time in the near future, but assuming that she's not close to this guy, the same couldn't be said about him. She probably figured that if she went by your place that she'd probably be there a while, rather than just say hi, and didn't want to do that since she had to go by her parents place. There's absolutely nothing to worry about, besides the fact that you think that she should spend her free time with you rather than some casual friend of hers. And she was interested in seeing you, since she invited you didn't she? Chill out dude, and let her have some space and share her a little bit with others.
Author walktheline Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 Yeah you're right I'm being stupid and paranoid. I really dont have a problem with her spending free time with friends at all be they guys or girls, we both did Saturday night and will be his week some too, guess I just needed someone to tell me that and give me some perspective. Thanks for the reply.
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