40 Fonzarelli Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I started dating this girl back in september. We became official in the beginning of Feb. Although I enjoy the time we spend together and I really like her, I can't say I love her. Is it normal to take this long? Im just wondering how long is too long to maybe realize she isn't the one. She hasn't said it either.
brainygirl Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Do you WANT to say you love her? Or are the particular feelings you associate with being in love not really there? I think its possible to be in a state of intense "like" with someone before going into Love. Also, its such a heavy word that it could be that no one wants to bring it up first. I dunno what to tell you though. Wait and see? Enjoy the ride and see where you end up?
East7 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Although I enjoy the time we spend together and I really like her, I can't say I love her. Is it normal to take this long? Im just wondering how long is too long to maybe realize she isn't the one. She hasn't said it either. If you can't say you love her it is probably because you don't love her, plain simple. When you are in love it is so intense and obvious that you don't even question it.
Cee Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Maybe you can test the waters by saying things you know you mean like... I am in love with you. I care for you. I love it when you do that. I am falling for you. etc Usually, before I say I love you, I say stuff like, "I love how you think." It sounds corny, but it seems to work for me.
Lemontang Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Yeah the L word holds a lot of weight to some people more than others. I myself don't throw the word around flippantly when I'm in a relationship. It's only when I see a real future in it that I do. But once you drop the word things 'do' change. My girlfriend said it to me a few months into dating, I didn't reciprocate however as I myself wasn't ready to go there. So don't expect to hear it straight away should you drop the word first. I did however choose my moment to tell her and in doing so we've really moved things forward.
yah Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I don't put much weight on dating non-exclusively. So to me, its only been a month. Not surprising the L-word hasn't been said yet.
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