OliveOyl Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Hmmm. I'm having a bit of weird response from my OKCupid profile. I've had exactly 4 responses in a bit over 2 days. 3 of them are completely no-go as far as what I'm looking for. I had a 22 yo wink at me and say "hot". 22! WTF? (I'm over twice his age.) So I've had one decent response so far. I was logging in to reply to "Mr. Decent", and right away I got 2 IMs from two of the "no-go's." I had responded with a simple "thanks you look nice too" message to one of the guys, but apparently that was the WRONG thing to do, because right away he started trying to engage me in cybersex. The other guy -- from Australia and already in a relationship -- asked if he could get me on Skype and talk. I was being friendly because that is my nature, but it looks like I will have to do what I don't really care to do, which is block them. And there was nothing... NOTHING in my profile that gave any hint toward sex.. not even any full body shots yet, just a couple of friendly face shots. Is this just typical, guys will give it a try no matter what?
Leeway Harris Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 This is exactly what I'm talking about. This is why I don't bother emailing women from those sites anymore. I can't compete with stuff like that. I can't make myself heard over all that noise. I believe it's only a minority of guys who are doing that, but it's enough to ruin the whole experience for a lot of people.
Nexus One Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 This is exactly what I'm talking about. This is why I don't bother emailing women from those sites anymore. I can't compete with stuff like that. I can't make myself heard over all that noise. I believe it's only a minority of guys who are doing that, but it's enough to ruin the whole experience for a lot of people. I have no experience with online dating, but wouldn't sending a decent message work as opposed to all the short crap that most guys send? I mean if 20 guys send a message like: "Hey there babe!" and if you send a message that actually indicates you read her profile, wouldn't that stand out? Or do women on those websites simply ignore the quality messages and go for the guy who looks hottest in his profile photo's? (i.e. disregarding quality messages)
brainygirl Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I get nasty messages all the time. One guy asked if I wanted to be friends with benefits, and other felt it was up to him to point out what he felt were my physical short comings. I tend to block them and then report them.
Leeway Harris Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I have no experience with online dating, but wouldn't sending a decent message work as opposed to all the short crap that most guys send? I mean if 20 guys send a message like: "Hey there babe!" and if you send a message that actually indicates you read her profile, wouldn't that stand out? You'd think so, wouldn't you? But my theory is that the women read so many of these stupid messages they become jaded. And once that happens, they become suspicious of even the sincere messages.
Author OliveOyl Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 I haven't gotten any more responses from my online profile. Nonetheless, despite the low level of responses, Mr. Decent has emerged as interesting to me. We have exchanged messages back and forth and at least in writing, he comes across as very level-headed, responsive, and we seem to have some things in common, at least on the surface. So... he asked me out. I'm trying to keep my expectations low (I'm not even exactly sure what he looks like... just one head shot photo) but I'm looking forward to getting out no matter what. I'm going to be a bit of a nervous wreck though. I haven't been on a first date in 19 years.
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