singlelife Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Most people tend to give themselves too much credit. Like they are already perfect and anybody that talks to them has to be a certain way. So share the good and bad things that a person would have to be dealing with if they were to get involved with you. I bet it will be an eye opener. Unless Superman and Wonderwoman are on this site.
Titania22 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Actually I don't think I bring much, I often can't understand why people want to be friends with me, but my friends seem to be quite passionate about making sure I know how much they value my friendship and also being very giving towards me. It makes me think I must be bringing something, but I am baffled to what that is. I know as far as kids and teens are concerned, I create my house like a sanctuary from the rest of the world, where no one is judged and everything is really laid back. I have several computers, unlimited adsl2 internet, there is a wii with a few popular games, and access to interesting new style board games (such as dominion, settlers of catan, stone age, etc), and I will always drop whatever I am doing to play them if someone is willing. So I basically bring escape from the world. The downside is my housekeeping skills aren't up to par (as much as they have improved), and at the moment I'm employment challenged (although hopefully that will change over the coming years, what with going back to uni). I also bring interesting diverse conversation, and a willingness to keep in shape and wear cute outfits.
Kamille Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 My best quality: my sense of humor A nice quality: truly caring about what my partner has to say and what he wants; I'm generally a good communicator A small flaw: my tendency to be rigid in how I organize my time/space. My biggest flaw: my inability to handle stress, which in turn stresses me out and makes me edgy/difficult to talk to when I'm stressed out /overworked.
somedude81 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I can open jars. I also have an extra body part that girls don't have
carhill Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Good: Emotional openness and the many lessons I learned from my prior roles as a husband and caregiver Financial stability and fiscal responsibility Physically healthy with no significant medical issues in my lifetime. Lifetime non-smoker and modest social drinker. I've never experimented with or used drugs and have never had any interest in such Well-traveled and well-versed in understanding and accepting the diversity of world culture. I'm also a good cook and housekeeper, as well as having a myriad of 'man' skills. Currently, I'm remodeling the master bedroom and installing new electrical and lighting, plaster and wood flooring. Bad: Atypically sensitive and emotional for a man. My divorce and my mom's care and death hit my finances hard so am recovering, a task which I estimate will take five to ten years, at which time I will retire. 'Over the hill', meaning older than 50, so lifespan is somewhat limited. Self-employed, which is unattractive to some people. Past OM and MM, indicating poor past boundaries and choices, mitigated by effective and substantial counseling during my M. Subsequent divorce was amicable, indicating success of counseling efforts, but risk factors remain. That's a quick summary, none of which is a surprise to anyone who's read many of my 21,000+ posts on LS.
Intricategirl Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I can open jars. I also have an extra body part that girls don't have Not true. I have one in several colors, shapes, and sizes.
somedude81 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 LOL I just got an image of a girl with dildos and vibrators growing out of her. Yeah, kind of freaky
carhill Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Don't know whether it's good or bad but I've manufactured sex toys and BDSM apparatuses in the past. YMMV
Intricategirl Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Good: I am very loyal, honest, faithful, and fairly easygoing. I'm REALLY strong. I own my own house, car, commercial property, have owned several businesses, and am working my way towards being a lawyer. Bad: That strength was hard earned, and it freaks some people out. I am working my way towards being a lawyer, which means I'm REALLY busy. I have a few ex-boyfriends I'm still friends with and will never give my guy a reason to distrust me, but for some it's a dealbreaker.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I would bring the bagels to the table and she brings the cream cheese. We'd eat them for breakfast, then push everything off the table and fu_k. Everything else is anyone's guess. But seriously folks, the thing we both need to just bring to each other's lives is joy. It IS possible to do that--I'm seeing that there are people out there who can just be good for each other and contain themselves in how they negotiate the adjustments we all have to make to make a relationship work. "Joy" is a big generality--I get that. You can't buy it or have it manufactured for you so that you can just wrap it up with paper and give it to someone as a gift. "Joy" is very, very, very personal. It's giving a crap and continuing to give a crap, and trusting that you're being given a crap about. But joy isn't crap. It's a bit of redemption for all the times you wish someone gave a crap and knowing that you can do that for another struggling soul. That's all there is--there ain't no heaven. The only redemption there is other than being a success that brings positive change to the world is the joy that comes with trusting someone to share their secret crap with you.
Eclypse Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Good: I give my girlfriend lots of attention, I care for and would do anything for my s/o. I put in 100%, I'm tall and well built, I have a bright future (20 and about to graduate from the no.1 university in the country). Bad: I get very insecure, I get moody and grumpy when things don't go my way, I put work off too much sometimes, and I tend to have a little too much of a wandering eye when it comes to other women...
Mrlonelyone Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 The good: Humor, passion, sensitivity, consideration and sexual experience. As a SO I always like to cheer up my SO. I feel what I feel strongly and intensely. My intensity can scare some people for the right people they find they love it. Consideration... I always think about what my SO's needs are and if there is any way I can help meet them. That goes for every aspect of our shared life. I also offer sexual experience that most men cannot offer. I know how a woman wants to be pleasured and treated in bed and the ways that men can be too selfish. The bad: To some people my bisexuality and fluid gender behavior can be a negative. Someone who needs to have rigid traditional gender roles would not like me. Also some are intimidated by what I do for a living, theoretical physics. The ugly: I live with and take care of my elderly father. He's blind, demented, and does not like to bathe. Also my racial background, and gender/sexuality once known will make people around a potential SO uncomfortable. They will have to deal with bad whispers from those close to them.
Cracker Jack Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Good: Loyalty. I really wouldn't want anything other than the power to make the woman I'm with smile and let her know that I'm someone who will be there for her--whether things are rough or if they're going well. That's just the kind of person I am, tho. Most women I've formed some sort (never had a real relationship, but had gotten close to a good few) of emotional connection with quite a few--and, while they usually never worked out in the end, I often had gotten them to open up to me quite a bit. A few of them often told me that their past relationships with men often made them lose hope in finding sensitivity within a man, but after getting to know me, they realize that there are men out there who can focus on the emotional part of the woman rather than the physical so much. I've also always made them laugh, no matter how they were feeling. Laughter is very important, so I always feel like this is one of my better qualities when I'm not shy. Bad: Not very experienced in relationships. I simply do not know what's it's like to be in a real relationship, so my lack of knowledge will do more harm than good here. With that, I'm also not very experienced sexually, and with how everyone is nowadays, I would be so assed out if a woman was looking to have good sex. That's also a dealbreaker for many, so she would probably just be done with me from the jump. I know giving effort is good, but if you're not good in that area, the relationship can go down hill as time progresses. So, while I feel like I can bring a strong sense of loyalty and honestly to a relationship, I just feel like I'm simply behind in terms of understanding a relationship. There's no way to prepare for this.
Brady_to_Moss Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 What do i bring to the table? Nothing really. I am 22 and living life the way i want to without worrying about dating and all of the work/drama that goes into it.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Good: quirky and off-beat sense of humor, when I fall in love I am 200% loyal and would go to the ends of earth for my partner, intelligent conversation, financially independent, big boobs, sense of drama Bad: hate doing household chores, forget to pay bills on time, too emotional, too impatient, too impulsive
Duckduckgoose Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Good: Funny, faithful, loyal, no drama, intelligent, good communicator, independent, laid back, down-to-earth, open minded, fair, patient, try to understand but not judge. Bad: Strong-willed, easily frustrated and manifests itself as ADD-ish, tend to overthink things, some emotional baggage from divorce and past boyfriends, not very trusting but also don't expect people to trust me, I would rather prove to them I am trustworthy, talkative, have tarantula pets (which puts a lot of people off), anger issues from divorce and other things that I am working on, sometime feel the need to be right all the time... working on that too by letting things that are no so important slide. Very direct person, blunt but trying to learn to speak the truth in love, can be opinionated and having to learn to let **** slide.
somedude81 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Good: big boobs, Bad: too impulsive Pics or it didn't happen. No need to think about it, you're impulsive
Duckduckgoose Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Pics or it didn't happen. No need to think about it, you're impulsive Did somedude81 remember to put "deductive but too quick to jump to conclusions" on his goods and bads?
Ruby Slippers Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Good: Honest, committed, awesome cook, fun, creative, sexy and sexual, loving, encouraging, friendly, sporty, very clean and tidy (a little OCD), self-motivated, adventurous, freethinking, run my own successful biz, major cuddle bunny. Bad: Can be needy, mean dad issues (but I've come a long way), sometimes a hermit, feel deeply and tend to run away and hide when my feelings are hurt (also have come a long way here), hate doing dishes, can get a little jealous, am pretty all or nothing sometimes, moody.
Cee Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I can be present with someone and savor the moment, which means I'm quite enthusiastic about mundane things like sitting on a doorstep or watching him open the mail. Little things please me, so I am pretty much happy with him all the time. And if I'm irritated or moody, I know how to relax and come out of it without picking a fight or blaming him. I don't retain specific information so I have trouble talking politics with my many lefty and progressive friends. I'm careless with objects and have difficulty saving money. I'm more of a head in the clouds type than a practical person. I am very forgetful, which makes me seem thoughtless, but in truth, I only care about the broad principles than the details. It's fun to do this inventory. I would be curious what my SO thinks, but I'd rather not know
brainygirl Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Good: Fun, caring, funny, smart. I can cook - but don't often (I guess that's neagative), health conscienouse. I've been told I'm great in bed . . . Bad: I hate housework. I can get stressed out when I don't know what's going on or when things will happen. The package: Three sons, two drug addict brothers, and a set of aunts, uncles, and cousins that like to get together for cook outs that are loud, grab it or do without kind of affairs. Oh, and I have three tattoos and won't guarantee that I won't get more.
Disillusioned Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Good: I do all my own housework, am never broke, I like to make things and fix things. Bad: I don't like a lot of things most other people like.
Els Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 For once, I actually agree with the OP. I've seen some of the laundry lists that some people here have put up for their potential partners, and I've seen the things some people suggest breaking up for... and it makes me wonder, do they really feel that they are all that themselves??? If they do, they must either be the top 1% of the population, or deluded. I'm guessing the latter. Not everyone is like this by a long shot, but I've seen more than a handful who are. As for myself, I have plenty of bad traits which I won't deny, but as the topic is what we bring to the table... I will say that even my best traits are situational, as in it takes a certain type of man to appreciate it. Basically, I 'get' my guy. I don't usually throw a huge fuss over small stuff, I don't have all those crazy expectations some women seem to have, I totally understand why he can't just leave right now in the middle of a game to do something non-urgent, and that it has no reflection on me. I can be ready to go out in 5 minutes, I will never drag him shopping, I don't give a damn how he dresses or if he shaves. I will spend hours brainstorming a puzzle with him, or levelling a video game alt, or setting up a computer, or any such passions that we both share. Basically, I will be as close to a buddy as a guy might ever have from one of the opposite sex.. and I also do most of (not all, I can't possibly beautify myself much in 5 minutes, can I?) the girlfriend stuff, including relatively frequent sex, which I enjoy.
WorldIsYours Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Good: Strong-willed, can cook well, have decent job, and very loyal. Bad: I have family/childhood issues and sometimes it affects my relationship with my fiance. But I'm glad she's sticking by me.
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