krystal1234 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Hi Everyone. I will try to make this short and sweet. Met a guy on an internet dating site. He made the first contact. After a few weeks of emails we finally met for coffee and the meeting went from Starbucks to sitting on the tailgate of his truck talking, to a bar for a few drinks. Then after 7 hours together we hugged and went home. During the evening he told me that he believed in being friends first and that he didn't like to just "jump into bed" with someone right away. I agreed and I feel the same way, especially since I have recently come out of a bad marriage myself. Well second date happened yesterday...we went to the park and spent hours together...we have an excellent connection and talking with him flows so natural. We kept bumping into each other as we walked but acted as if it were nothing...like old friends...he mentioned us hanging out in the future (like taking me to this place he likes to go for walks to having me come over and see some of his prints in his apt)...he asked me three times what I was going to do when I left his place...and because I don't want to be too pushy I said go home...when really deep inside I wanted to continue to spend time with him. He leaned in and we hugged and he kissed my cheek. Then somewhere in our goodbyes he said we should def hang out as "friends". The dreaded word...I know that he made it clear to me on the first date, and I know that it is too early to start analyzing...but why did he have to say this? It kind of sucked... Am I looking too deep into this and should I relax and let things flow as they will? I have to admit I am REALLY attracted to this guy inside and out and I don't want to get hurt myself. One last point...he was in a long term relationship a few years back that really effected him when they broke up, and his mom was just diagnosed with cancer...so he has a lot on his plate right now....any advice? thanks.
crossfitter Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 From what I can tell, it was likely an attempt to reiterate his belief in being friends first. Only he knows how long it'll take him from wanting to move to something more, but if you're into him as much as you say, it sounds like he may be worth the wait. You might try to relax, let it flow for a bit, until you get a clearer sign that he's interested in stepping up to the plate.
Author krystal1234 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 From what I can tell, it was likely an attempt to reiterate his belief in being friends first. Only he knows how long it'll take him from wanting to move to something more, but if you're into him as much as you say, it sounds like he may be worth the wait. You might try to relax, let it flow for a bit, until you get a clearer sign that he's interested in stepping up to the plate. I am going to do just that. Continue to see him, with no pressure and live my life in the meantime. Thanks for the advice.
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