smudge21 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 ...and totally feel terrible! We were staying friends due to work commitments even though she'd gone back with her on/off boyfriend and got engaged to him. As of today she's posting about weddings and dresses etc etc, and it all got too much for me. I never wanted to delete her as for most of the time (over the last few months) I've been fine, even able to see them both as friends. But the wedding talk just got too much and now I've removed her, and her family/friends. I just know at some point questions will be asked as to why and that may/will be my chance to finally be honest with her, not to get her back (that's long gone) but just to be honest. Plain and simple. I know come tomorrow I am totally going to regret doing this and feel even worse. It's like I'm just stuck and no matter what I try to do, it only gets worse...
Good Arms Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I can understand why you feel terrible, it's very tough to do when you're still on amicable terms. But really, you did this for your own health and in my opinion it's ENTIRELY necessary. I'm glad I blocked my ex before I saw any more than I did about her life moving on without me. Don't regret doing it. I'm sure she'll understand you need to move on, and if she doesn't, then it's really not for you to feel any guilt about it.
Author smudge21 Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 Thanks for those kind words. I just feel that I've given up as I guess I was still holding out some sort of hope. Whenever we met up (work) we'd get along so well and it was clear there's still feelings between us both. I never wanted to just walk away but now I've done it... and feel terrible! The question is, if/when she gets in touch to ask why I've deleted her, do I respond? Do I tell her the truth if I do?
Good Arms Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 The question is, if/when she gets in touch to ask why I've deleted her, do I respond? Do I tell her the truth if I do? I've no experience of these things, I've gone complete NC (aside from smiling and saying "hello" if I see her in passing at work) as I really couldn't handle talking to her. But in my opinion it wouldn't do any harm at all to just explain why you deleted her - ONLY if she asks first. Just say something about you felt you had to do it to move on. If she's getting married then sadly she's already moved on, even if there are still some feelings between you. I can totally feel how painful that is. This is one more step towards letting her go, and moving on with your own life.
Author smudge21 Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 You're right and thanks for posting. Really thought she was the one... will definitely miss her.
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