mortensorchid Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I just put a profile on OkCupid last night. In recent weeks I have had many changes in terms of my social life. Please let me explain ... I really got into these MeetUp groups lately, and several weeks ago I went for my very first meet up for a trivia game night. I met these five guys who had also showed up, somehow we just had the magic, and we became a team. Two of these five have since fallen by the wayside, me and two others (and this one guy's girlfriend) have since become a foursome trivia team and we hit games all across town. And then ... Last night, I got a message from someone on OkCupid. It was one of the three guys who have since fallen by the wayside. Oddly enough, he didn't say to me "I know you from trivia night." Instead, he wrote this : after a quick skim of your profile I imagined dating you in my mind. I have to say the highlight was was our romantic trip to Aruba! hmmm...... warm beach, rollerskating, sipping pina calads, then holding you in my arms as we watched the ebb and flow of the moon-lit ocean......hard to top plus we had all those late night movie snuggle fests and weekend road trips. thanks for all the fun imaginary memories I'll never forget you! Is this a form letter? It's strange that he didn't take the time out to say "I know you from trivia nights". Should I respond? I'm not sure what to do here.
Intricategirl Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 General rule of thumb- anyone that you use the descriptor "Oddly" or "strange" probably doesn't need a response. If it's not a form letter and he knew who you were, why didn't he say? If he did know who you were, but didn't include it, he's already skipping ahead several months at least, imagining you on a couples vacation. Kind of sounds like a nut who's trying to be memorable, and is memorable for the wrong reasons to me. IMO.
GivenUp0083 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 ummm, did you go to Aruba with him? If so, then maybe he remembers you. If not, then it's probably a spam email he sends to every girl and doesn't remember you. If this is the case you should call him out and tell us his response, I think it would be hilarious.
Author mortensorchid Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 No, I never went to Aruba let alone ANYPLACE with him unless you count the few bars that he I occupied when we were playing the trivia games. So I do see that this is a form letter. I would like to call him out on this, as you never know who you will or will not encounter in real life verses online for whatever purposes. It would be hilarious to discover a crossover in your business verses personal life.
TouchedByViolet Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Very strange... his message sounds cut and paste to me. One would think a person who actually knows you would reference that fact in some way.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I would call him out on it in a nice way. If nothing else maybe he'll figure out that his message are creepy and sending the wrong signal. If you spend more than 5 minutes with him he should remember you. I've gotten some strange stuff this time around. One guy wrote to me like I had written him first. I have no idea if it was an accident or if that's his strategy but it was way weird.
Author mortensorchid Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 I did sort of call him out on this silliness. I told him that we already know each other from trivia game nights, but did not ridicule him for sending this rather obvious form letter. I didn't want to hurt his feelings. He said "Oh right, it's YOU!", which I found a little ... Strange. We have not seen each other in the flesh for many weeks now, but we are/were Facebook friends. One night on Facebook I asked him through IM if he had had much luck with the website, he said he'd been out on one or two dates but not much else. I am not disappointed that he is not asking me out, because I know already that we are not good match. But, I hope that he got my underline message from this - that sending form letters like he did is a little lame.
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