confused2134 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 So I was in a relationship with this girl for like a year and a half. It's been mainly great but I'm a year older and we've been together since I started college. Anyway we broke up a couple times but got back together like the next day. I started to notice her getting distant she goes to school a few hours away from me so I asked her wahts wrong and she said I just need you here I can't do this unless I see you. Then I visited her we had a great weekend and things were great. I sent her flowers for valentine's day then she was being distant again so I ende things with her. We were mainly fighting over her not visiting me very often and how she didnt have a way to get here. She begged for me back and I love her so I said I"d take her back. Two days later she was still being weird and I stated I was thinking about breaking up again. Then she turned it around and broke up with me. I did all the things wrong that she liked that I did in the past where I was texting her trying to win her babck like telling her I love her. Talking to her friends trying to find stuff out. I know it's not another guy because I do know she drunkenly kissed one of her friends at a party but he tried to start something with her right after and she wasn't into it. She was pretty cold to me and I told her I had to see her to get closure. She tried to avoid it cause it was hard but saturday before she went to Florida and I wrote her a long note basically saying that I think she's making a mistake and it was funny a lot of stuff that needed to be said. We talked for a second she said we could kiss but nothing more than a peck. Then we both started crying or w/e and I said can you promise me it's not over forever, (we pinky swore she finds those very important). Then I said I'll give her space. Right after we left she said I'm sorry that was so hard I never meant to hurt you. Then she said you looked really really good though. I said thanks and that I'm going to give her space. She said it was such a nice letter and that I'm a great guy. So we've been without contact for like 9 days. She's posted little thigns that I'm not really sure whether it's about me or whether it's not. I need a little insight into what she's thinking. Does she tstill think about me like I think about her? Does she not think or care about me at all? She also unfollowed me on twitter and untagged every picture of us. Do you think she's doing it just to get a rise out of me? I never have been the type to fall head over heels for a girl but I've dated plenty and even been in love but never like this. Sorry for the long post. P.s. I was also her first everything, first boyfriend took her virginity first everythign basically.
Stilicho Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 i know how u feel man, very empathetic for you. hey, if u really love her, try and get her back, u know her, do what u feel is necessary. of course she still thinks of you, you guys just broke up, so emotions are running high. clear your head, and revisit this after things cool down.
Author confused2134 Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 thanks man I appreciate that. My main problem is she was like the best person I knew and it's like a switch flipped. She all of a sudden is very cold. I need some insight from the ladies I need o know waht's going on in her head. I am fine if it's over. I ust don't really get what's going on with her.
Stilicho Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 by being cold, she may be showing that she cheated, or just wants to push u away/not show emotion, so its easier on her.
Author confused2134 Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 I know for a fact she hasn't cheated.
Stilicho Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 didnt you say she kissed a guy? did she tell you she did? if so, it was probably a little more than that , either way, by being cold, shes trying to distance herself from you. trust me man, basically same thing happened to me.
Author confused2134 Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 yeah after we broke up she drunkenly kissed a guy. I know you guys are thinking I'm naive but i know i twasn't more than that. She's pretty innocent in those aspects. I just don't see why she'd feel the need to distance herself. Like why if she still thinks about me and misses me would she raterh force distance than come back?
Stilicho Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 simply put, bc she wants to be freee more than she misses you and wants to be with you. trust me, best way to see if she misses you enough to get back with you, is to drop out of her life for a while, and make her miss you. keep NC going for a while, at least 1-2 months, if she contacts you, go with your feelings.
joshextreme Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 simply put, bc she wants to be freee more than she misses you and wants to be with you. trust me, best way to see if she misses you enough to get back with you, is to drop out of her life for a while, and make her miss you. keep NC going for a while, at least 1-2 months, if she contacts you, go with your feelings. thats what im trying to do with my ex. let her come back to me. but we got into an argument a few days ago and blocked her in the FB. idk if that was right. any help?
Author confused2134 Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 Well I"m ertainly not one to be giving advice on this matter. But I'm personally not going to block her because I feel it owuld be much better for mys ituation if she sees me on facebook not talking to her and just living my life. I have no idea whether she cares. Like we were in love i don't know how she couldn't but I dont know whether she does. But yeah I've just been doing pretty will without contact it's pretty tough though. I need advice or like a little insight into my situation if anybody can give it.
joshextreme Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Well I"m ertainly not one to be giving advice on this matter. But I'm personally not going to block her because I feel it owuld be much better for mys ituation if she sees me on facebook not talking to her and just living my life. I have no idea whether she cares. Like we were in love i don't know how she couldn't but I dont know whether she does. But yeah I've just been doing pretty will without contact it's pretty tough though. I need advice or like a little insight into my situation if anybody can give it. im pretty much in the same situation. like my ex just completely fell out of love. i know somewhere she does love me cause when i talk about loving her she gets upset and trys to avoid the topic. im going NC but im not sure if blocking her was right. idk if i should un block her
Author confused2134 Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 I don't really know I couldn't tell you what's right. I don't think my ex fell out of love. Because I'm a firm believer that you never all out of love with somebody you've been in love with. I don't know it's a difficult situation I wish somebody could tell me what she's thinking.
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