flitzanu Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 just curious on opinions for something like this. obviously after a breakup neither party has any vested interest in the other, and no requirement to offer any condolensces or well wishes. but in the case of one of the party's parents having medical trauma, is it unacceptable to break NC to send best wishes? like, if a parent has a heart attack, stroke, terrible accident, that type of thing? i mean, strangers send will wishes on things like that, is it cold and uncaring to not say anything....or just another sign of not letting go?
laRubiaBonita Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 i really really think it will vary- there is no right or wrong answer. but i think if NC has to be disrupted for an emergency- it had better be a good one... aka- death or a horrible surprise thing (not a planned surgery, birth, etc..) my other thought is that if you are THAT concerned for the person affected by the ailment.... send the well wishes directly to that person.
Trovador Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Why would you worry if it's cold or uncaring? You don't owe them anything... or you do? If you are so worried about what they will think of you, then rest sure that they will understand why you didn't appear at the funeral or hospital...
stopthemadness Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I wouldnt do it. I would pray for them..But to open up myself to all the hurt again..am thinking no.
Author flitzanu Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 and what if either person from the breakup sends the info to the other, concerning the news? should the sender expect the other to reply? even something as simple as "i'm sorry to hear that" or similar? is it beyond courtesy to reply, or should there continue to be no response simply because you're "broken up" and there is no obligation?
laRubiaBonita Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 and what if either person from the breakup sends the info to the other, concerning the news? should the sender expect the other to reply? even something as simple as "i'm sorry to hear that" or similar? is it beyond courtesy to reply, or should there continue to be no response simply because you're "broken up" and there is no obligation? i would consider that fishing for a response. but like i said, it's circumstantial..... if you are in fact that close to the ex's family that it's almost like they were you own... then yes i would think it would be fine. just trust your gut- if you are going to forever regret Not telling ex "sorry to hear about your dad...." then by all means let them know.
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