mysterygal1611 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 hey anybody and everybody!! i want your help/opinion on how to tackle the situation with my best friend. several weeks back i visited my best friend and her boyfriend(for the first time)at her place. her parents didnt know that she was dating and this guy had sneaked into my best friend's place...her parents were their usual loving self(they were extra caring as i had visited them after a long time)..i stayed only for a couple of minutes that night and drove back home... the next day her boyfriend sent me a text saying that i shouldnt call or txt my best friend...i immediately figured that her parents might have suspected something fishy with her and decided to follow her bf's advice(rather command)and did not text her or call her for a couple of days but i was worried about her... days passed into weeks and i was still in the same position...frustrated i decided to give her a call after all and did so but there was no response on either of her two numbers...assuming that she would call me once she sees the missed call i diverted my attention towards the pile of work i had left to do... next morning i got a very angry txt from her boyfriend...he started yelling at me for caling my best friend the previous day...he said that i should have asked him first before i called her...apparently she got into trouble with her parents as i had called as my calls displeased her parents...i was shocked to hear that but all the same was mad at my friend and her bf for keeping me in the dark about this...they still refused to discuss what had happened that day after a left her place...why her parents suddenly started hating me? i was angry,upset and hurt by wat had happened and told her bf that i was on my way to her place to sort out this mess and clear the air with her parents....it was then that my friend texted (in bits and pieces)for the first time in several weeks; she said that soon after i left her parents sensed something wrong with her and began doubting her...later her father happened to read a txt by me in which i had mentioned her bf's name...this confirmed their doubts and they felt that it was my influence that was spoiling her and instructed her never to keep in touch with me...i wasnt surprised that my best friend hadnt defended me...but i was angry all the same that she had kept this bit of detail to herself while i worrried myself sick...all the three of us(me,my best friend and her boyfriend) got into a huge argument and i swore to her boyfriend that i will never text her again...she apologised later for what she had done but i felt this friendship was beyond repair and told her so...i also told her about the fight between me and her boyfriend and said that it was impossible for us to remain friends since clearly the guy she loves and i dont get along.... i stopped texting her since then partly because im still hurt by what she did(lying and bitching about me to her parents)and mainly because i don't want to involve myself in anything that is associated with her bf!!but she texts me often and this places me in a confused position...should i try to give our friendship another chance or should i continue to ignore her texts? even if i should decide on giving our friendship another chance i dont think ill ever trust her again the way i used to and neither will her parents agree to her being friends with me(coz im damn sure that she is nt goin to tell her parents the truth about herself and she'll keep using me as an excuse in the process blackening my name which i dont want to happen) pls somebody advise me on how i should be treating this matter!!
spice4life Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Sounds like your friend threw you under the bus. Why don't her parents like you? I would just ignore them for now and wait to see how things pan out. How old are the two of if you don't mind me asking?
Author mysterygal1611 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 Sounds like your friend threw you under the bus. Why don't her parents like you? I would just ignore them for now and wait to see how things pan out. How old are the two of if you don't mind me asking? well her parents think that im the one who influenced her into dating that guy and stuff...although i have no idea how her parents came to that conclusion...my guess is that she would have passed the blame on me when her parents confronted her.....anyway thanks so much for your advice...i'll wait and see what happens....and regarding my age...ill let you figure that one out for yourself
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