charly26 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I've been broken up for more than 2 months an in following the good advice give here, I've tried going out to meet more people. I went on some dates with women I had had some intimate contact with (some makeout and sex), and it was fun. In some way, it helped release the tension sometimes we can have. But the thing is that these people either knew me and there was some intimacy trust or they were people I wanted to get something from (sex or makeout). Of course, without being sleazy and them being aware of that. But, last night I told a collegue from work who works in another branch. We went to see play, and my mindset was: "I've never gone out with this young girl (she's 22-2 years older than my ex), so I just wanted go out with no intention of picking her up. Besides enjoying the play with her, I got the chance to get to know her better. And my conclusion is that there are better women out there for us guys, and the same goes for women. As we we were talking, I noticed so many interesting traits I wish my ex had. In my mind I was like, "I wish my ex were like this girl, it would be so cool". This outing gave me a lot of perspective, and help me see that even if my ex came for a chance, she's unlikely to change in a short period of time, so be careful if you decide to give a second chance just because you are afraid of being alone or never feeling love for some one else. Going out to meet more people with no intention of hookup gives you a very good perspective and lets us know more what kind of partner we really want and is going to add more happiness to our lives, no more drama. I don't believe my ex is going to come to me for a second chance, tough, I still have some hope, but I don't let it to control because I certainly know that that hope my prevent me from meeting someone more suitable for me. So think about it, and take my case as an example of how we can get over our exe with time. I have cried like a baby in the privacy of my room, frustrated because things didn't work out as I expected. But now, I feel much better, after more than 2 months of NC where I have blocked totally from my ex. I don't know what shes's up to, but more and more hoping that she's doing fine in her life. I think that this way of indifference in which you care less about what she's doing or with whom is a good sign that we are accepting things the way they are and moving on in our lives. I plan to continue on hanging out with this colleague, and get her to ask me out in a friendly way. She might have interesting females friend with whom I can date. It's about being open to what the world has to offer to us. Hope this post helps and I wish you a good Monday :=)
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