MissGoLightly Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 (edited) I've been dating a guy for awhile, and we've never had jealousy issues, I've never given him a hard time about going out with the guys, etc. Sometimes he makes comments that imply otherwise, and I think I've had enough. Just curious what others' take on the following is: My bf had a couple friends come visit him Friday night, and they went out. I had plans all weekend and didn't see my bf until last night. He mentioned that he noticed on Friday that he needed to do some landscaping "down there", but that he waited to do it until later so that I wouldn't give him the 3rd degree on why he did that to go out with his friends - basically implying that I would be crazy and accuse him of cheating on me, or trying to. I thought maybe he was joking, because I've never done anything like that before, but when I said as much he replied that sometimes I am crazy like that, but after all I'm a girl, so it's to be expected Edited March 14, 2011 by MissGoLightly
Ruby Slippers Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Sounds to me like he's trying to provoke you a little. Some guys feel insecure when you don't show any jealousy, so will try to stir some up out of nowhere. He's being a little childish. I'd ignore it.
yessy21 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 lmfao! keep doing what ur doing. its driving him nuts thinking. apparently u dont make him feel that important. lol. he wants u to go all psycho on him. Dont do it. but dont break up either. Hes just really into u thats all.
Author MissGoLightly Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 He also kept making comments about how I had plans all weekend. I'm not sure if he was trying to imply anything, but at one point he def seemed like he was intimating that I was gone all weekend because I was mad(?) or jealous(?) about his Friday night out. He mostly used a teasing tone of voice, but he said things like "I'll leave on Friday and not come back until Sunday night and see how you like it" which - to me - seemed to imply that I was upset about his plans and reacted by "being busy" the rest of the weekend that he was free. I could only respond by pointing out all the weekends he has visited X City or Y City with those same friends to go get wasted, and do whatever else it is that they do. I just felt like he was implying that it's OK for him to have weekend plans and not see me, but if I do the same thing it has to mean something more than having plans with my friends.
Breayanna Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 What you describe is a tactic used by some ppl to keep their partner off balance... Invent a complaint and then act as if the person has already done it. The icing is that he is already excusing the complaint he made up and pinned to you by saying you're a woman and that's the way women are. That tactic is a deal breaker for me. Glad you see through it.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I just felt like he was implying that it's OK for him to have weekend plans and not see me, but if I do the same thing it has to mean something more than having plans with my friends. Yeah, it sounds like he really likes you and he's insecure. The problem is you're smart enough to see through his childish attempts to bait you. Again, I would ignore it. Hopefully he's smart enough to figure out this approach isn't working, and he'll stop.
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