Star Gazer Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 "Interest" isn't really a barometer that matters much to me. It's obviously quite fleeting. None of my friends would ever dare keep FB albums of "flings." Yikes!
betterdeal Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Sounds like someone is distracting herself from a lot of inner turmoil by creating real or perceived chaos on the outside. Were you abused as a child, EternalSunshine? I also note the name. Great film. But notice the main female character wasn't actively creating multiple relationships? You are.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 "Interest" isn't really a barometer that matters much to me. It's obviously quite fleeting. None of my friends would ever dare keep FB albums of "flings." Yikes! Those albums have heavy privacy settings and only few of my closest friends can see them. Yes, interesting is fleeting in my case.....but it's still better than nothing.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 Sounds like someone is distracting herself from a lot of inner turmoil by creating real or perceived chaos on the outside. Were you abused as a child, EternalSunshine? I also note the name. Great film. But notice the main female character wasn't actively creating multiple relationships? You are. I guess I am creating chaos but it's real. And you are right - I have a lot of inner turmoil due to family problems (was never abused as a child though).
betterdeal Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 (edited) I guess I am creating chaos but it's real. Do you realise this chaos is not going to solve your inner pain and is causing real pain to others? And you are right - I have a lot of inner turmoil due to family problems (was never abused as a child though). Resolve that and you'll feel much better for it and coincidentally stop hurting yourself and others. This is a good definition of child abuse: http://www.nspcc.org.uk/Inform/cpsu/helpandadvice/organisations/defining/definingchildabuse_wda60692.html Edited March 17, 2011 by betterdeal
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 I will stick with the guy that I am now seeing and stop with multi-dating crap even if it doesn't work out. Getting rid of multi-dating will simplify my life immensely. Even LS is a distraction in way, from real problems. I am going into therapy. I found a good therapist and I am seeing her next week. Hope that she can help - I am finally ready for that.
betterdeal Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 I am going into therapy. I found a good therapist and I am seeing her next week. Hope that she can help - I am finally ready for that. Good luck with that.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 Good luck with that. thanks, I will need it. Don't even know where to start. I could probably easily talk for 10 hours straight. Sigh.
betterdeal Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 It's going to be a journey and there will be rough patches, but if you're brave - and I think you are - you'll find it rewarding.
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