EasyHeart Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Well,he didn't have to tell me that I am too fat. He could have told me there is no spark or something. I even insisted on if the spark is the problem and he claimed that it isn't. I proposed to him that we date casually which was a code for NSA sex. It's just weird because he attempted to have sex with me on our last date - I said no because I wasn't ready at the time. When I proposed casual dating, he said "I am not confident that things would work between us casually". When I asked for clarification, he just said that it's just the sense he gets and there is no reason to give me. Why would any guy refuse NSA arrangement especially when he was really into our make out sessions and it was clear that he was excited enough to have sex? If we had sex, I could understand that maybe sex was bad and that's why he doesn't want it. I am just stumped on this one.He decided you are crazy. Most men are smart enough to run away from crazy chicks, even if they offer NSA sex. It's just not worth the hassle.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 He was horny at the time he tried to have sex with you, but he wouldnt initiate sex with you if he wasnt horny. Not attracted enough to want NSA if he isnt already horny. You definitly dont want NSA with that guy. This one makes the most sense. Thank you Eddie.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 He decided you are crazy. Most men are smart enough to run away from crazy chicks, even if they offer NSA sex. It's just not worth the hassle. Nope, he couldn't have known that based on our limited interactions, sorry. Pretty much all of those interactions were initiated by him and he was chasing me, only to refuse NSA at the very end. I wasn't even contacting him. You have to remember EasyHeart, a lot of people in real life think that I am more normal than I really am. Including some friends that have known me for 7 years or so. Even my bff who works as a psychologist thinks that besides liking drama, there is nothing particularly wrong with me. Yeah, I am dating someone else and things are getting more serious there. That guy told me that I seem NORMAL lol. He responds to my texts in the middle of work meetings It still bugs me that the tennis guy refused NSA arrangement. It's a huge blow to the ego. Makes me feel really ugly. Especially since he chased me for like a month to have sex with him previously. He must have been REALLY turned off by me on the last date I am dieting and exercising now. The worst part is that he actually offered me hanging out as friends without the NSA arrangement. He told me that he REALLY enjoys spending time with me, just that he doesn't think casual would work out. Imagine that!! He wanted to do something this week as friends and I was so upset that he rejected me for sex that I ignored his offer. This is the first. Being rejected for sex. OMFG - I need to save for plastic surgery.
oaks Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Why would any guy refuse NSA arrangement especially when he was really into our make out sessions and it was clear that he was excited enough to have sex? Did he meet someone else? Or he's just not that into you. Why? Well, that is the 'why'.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 Did he meet someone else? Or he's just not that into you. Why? Well, that is the 'why'. It's possible that he met someone else. Either way, he is just not that into me and I have to forget about it.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Nope, he couldn't have known that based on our limited interactions, sorry. Pretty much all of those interactions were initiated by him and he was chasing me, only to refuse NSA at the very end. I wasn't even contacting him. You have to remember EasyHeart, a lot of people in real life think that I am more normal than I really am. Including some friends that have known me for 7 years or so. Even my bff who works as a psychologist thinks that besides liking drama, there is nothing particularly wrong with me. Your liking drama (and love of creating it) could be a super GREAT reason for a guy to decide not to mess with you in any way. I'm not even a guy, and I would run like the wind. With limited knowledge of a person, drama can equal crazy.
betterdeal Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 (edited) Your liking drama (and love of creating it) could be a super GREAT reason for a guy to decide not to mess with you in any way. I'm not even a guy, and I would run like the wind. With limited knowledge of a person, drama can equal crazy. I agree. With an in-depth knowledge, it has always meant lots of personal issues, in my experience. Edited March 16, 2011 by betterdeal
Star Gazer Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 This is the first. Being rejected for sex. OMFG - I need to save for plastic surgery. Don't you think it could be because he might have been turned off by a woman throwing herself at him? Men like to hunt. It's not much fun when you drop off a dead deer for them on their front porch, ya know?
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 Well f... him. He is missing out because I give great BJs
betterdeal Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Apart from great sex, especially BJs, what else is there to like about you? What do you like about you?
pandagirl Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 A guy just did the fade on me that I really liked. His actions were confusing -- he seemed to really like me, accepted me having herpes, etc. -- but at the end of it all, he disappeared. But, seriously -- you need to gather up your self-esteem and not worry about this dude. Once I realized it was more my ego that was bruised than anything else, I was able to just let it go. My outlook is, how can you be rejected by someone you went on a few dates with? They didn't even know you. Also, not everyone is going to want you. That's just simple statistics. It sucks when you like someone, and you feel like they like you, too, but I guess that's why dating is hard.
sumdude Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Having been divorced and dumped a few times, done my own dumping I've decided that I don't really want to know why any more. In fact even if I am given some kind of reason I know it's only part of the real truth anyway. It's one thing to take responsibility for mistakes in a LTR and quite another to spend too much time worrying about "What's wrong with me." when someone ends things in the early stages. Getting stuck in your head about that is just not good for your self esteem. Things that don't last long weren't meant to and that's that. The couple times I've done the fade (which I've stopped) I just didn't have the heart at the time to tell them. Now my patent answer is just "I don't see us working out long term." which is the truth regardless of any underlying reasons which could come off as hurtful. They're just my opinions and someone else will find that person just fine for them.
betterdeal Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Having now started saying why I'm not interested in someone I can safely say it really is better for me, and they tend to take it very well. I forget about the date in days, rather than ruminating and feeling guilty.
Star Gazer Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Well f... him. He is missing out because I give great BJs Is this the same guy who just asked you to be his girlfriend?
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 Is this the same guy who just asked you to be his girlfriend? Oh HELL no. That guy was a short fling - I met him before my now bf and less than a week after things ended with my ex bf. He was/is by brother's tennis coach. I had a week where I dated both of them, but that was before I was exclusive.
Star Gazer Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Oh HELL no. That guy was a short fling - I met him before my now bf and less than a week after things ended with my ex bf. He was/is by brother's tennis coach. I had a week where I dated both of them, but that was before I was exclusive. So you were offering up NSA sex to this guy while dating your now-BF? Regardless of whether or not you were exclusive, I know of no man who'd continue dating someone who was offering herself up to another guy like that. I'm sad for your BF.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Oh HELL no. That guy was a short fling - I met him before my now bf and less than a week after things ended with my ex bf. He was/is by brother's tennis coach. I had a week where I dated both of them, but that was before I was exclusive. Yeah, that was last week. The day before yesterday, you were still taking up lots of space here moaning about why he didn't want to have sex with you. Sounds like wonderful groundwork for launching a new relationship! But, he texts you in the middle of business meetings and schedules the way you like, so I'm sure it's all good.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 So you were offering up NSA sex to this guy while dating your now-BF? Regardless of whether or not you were exclusive, I know of no man who'd continue dating someone who was offering herself up to another guy like that. I'm sad for your BF. Don't worry too much about him, SG. It's probably more creative writing.
Star Gazer Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 Don't worry too much about him, SG. It's probably more creative writing. Ack! I know, I know! Why do I keep forgetting and thinking it's all real and just really, really messed up when it's all just creative license?! :slappingselfonforehead:
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 Don't worry too much about him, SG. It's probably more creative writing. Are you saying my now bf doesn't exist???? I was bummed out by rejection of NSA sex. It was a huge blow to my ego and difficult to forget.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 Ack! I know, I know! Why do I keep forgetting and thinking it's all real and just really, really messed up when it's all just creative license?! :slappingselfonforehead: Ehhhhh the funny thing is it is ALL real. I even got pictures with both of them that are dated. Why do I even bother with this
SmileFace Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 You must have an extensive photo album... sigh what is the point of name changes... it hurts my head.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 You must have an extensive photo album... sigh what is the point of name changes... it hurts my head. Well, for one thing, it assures her of more, more, more attention. We should all try it.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 You must have an extensive photo album... sigh what is the point of name changes... it hurts my head. I wanted to just get advice, not personal attacks that I am now getting. See - all of this is waste of time and could have been avoided if I was successful in hiding my identity. I left this place because I kept getting biased advice.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 I do have an extensive photo album. I enjoy taking pictures of pretty much anything. Is it so hard to believe that I have many guys interested in me?
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