Mixed28 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I did, I needed to let her go and extract her from my life its not like we have conversation anymore and she has a new bf so I decided to delete her a week and a half ago.
ReturnToSender Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 My ex isnt on fb..he really should be though..if for no other reason than for damage control so that pic of him with all the girls he gets involved with stop popping up all over everyones newsfeed.... He hasnt yet wrapped his brain around it that nothing is private anymore....no one takes pics for private memories anymore, and everyone posts where they are and with who...and he has no real concept of how fb works except that its somehow ruining his dating life, and his plan to try and get me to believe he really was where he said he was, or that hes not seeing anyone, when theres a pico f them together and shes calling him her husband. Adn it doesnt help that he keeps getting involved with girls who are friends of his friends, who I happen to be friends with so I see quite a bit more than Id like to when Im not even looking for it. Yup yup...
coltsfan1 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 i asked her to delete me once we broke up and she just blocked me. You are best for it, I know how hard it is but this is just another step in letting go and moving on.
Layzie89 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 One of the smartest things one can do after a breakup is delete their ex or deactivate their account which is what I did and it has helped a ton.
Username37 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Well i avoided fb for a while, but i really needed to go back on because i felt like i was shutting out people. so i got back on, blocked her, her stupid cunt friends and her new boyfriend and bam! I feel tons better she kept me up on her list, but i was restricted profiled.
betterdeal Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Of course. And I don't visit Facebook anywhere near as much as I used to.
Citizen Erased Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Yes. Him, his family and his best friend were deleted hours after we broke up. I have no use for them.
Veng Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Yeah, I did. 100% right choice. Especially if ex writes what is going on in his/her life all the time there (or if you are obsessed with checking his/her account every day).
0hpenelope Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Nope. I'm at the stage where I don't care that he looks at my profile or not and he doesn't pop up in my news feed.
angelboots Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 yup straight up. the temptation to know what he is up to is still fresh but thankfully i cant see and i know its for the best.
marqueemoon4 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 she blocked me and I blocked her. she deleted everyone from my side and I did the same.
Bluebelle38 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 yup straight up. the temptation to know what he is up to is still fresh but thankfully i cant see and i know its for the best. Spot on Try listening to this one as well. It really made me smile. Bit of an oldie, but a goodie
Good Arms Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I did, I needed to let her go and extract her from my life its not like we have conversation anymore and she has a new bf so I decided to delete her a week and a half ago. Good for you I know it hurts like hell, and it took me a good month I think to get to the stage where I could delete and block her. But it's definitely for the best. At first I was visiting it every day, how naive of me. At least I did learn that she seems to be running low on sensitivity. Happy messages within days of a break up where we parted on amicable terms, my heart destroyed. Then only three weeks on from being dumped she was boasting about looking forward to going into work - follow up comments from others revealed the reason: she had a new admirer. FFS, at that stage I still loved her, and she knew I was on her friends list!!! True colours I guess... I still find every bit of information I hear about my ex, however trivial, it plays on my mind all day. Although I have to see her around at work occasionally, I want to avoid knowing anything about her. Whatever you hear or see will hurt. FB is the devil in break-ups. Even after blocking her I've still been tempted to look for clues on mutual friends' pages. I see their replies to her sometimes, even if I don't see her posts. I've actually taken to blocking other people I'm not even friends with - HER friends (who also know our mutual friends, but not me) - as I've given in to temptation to look at their pages sometimes. It's insane, I soon learned how much it hurt to break NC via FB snooping, and even after I've taken all the measures to block her, my resolve still breaks sometimes. I'm not really a big FB user other than snooping and seeing what other people are up to. I rarely post details about myself on there. But I've just decided it's the next thing I'm going to reclaim for myself (the same goes for places, TV programmes, movies that I've been avoiding)... so while I have had it deactivated most of the time, now I've reactivated it. I can't see anything about her life and she can't see anything about mine. That's the ONLY way it can be if one person still has feelings, however crazy it is to go from two people being intimate to being total strangers Delete and BLOCK - it's for the best.
z00m25 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 i deleted her and all her friends, i would check it all the time at first and that would hurt since shes a fb whore and always posting how happy she is and what not even tho i know its bs and all a front. she was the most insecure person i ever met. i know its for the best even tho sometimes im half tempted to unblock her to see if she says anything. havent caved yet
SunsetRed Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I liked having my ex on my friend list, as it gave me hope that he still wanted a connection with me. He never updates his status and I update mine once a week. Well, in Feb I got a friend request from a guy from my past and within 24 hours my ex defriended me. I felt hurt to be defriended because my ex only has 8 friends and he actually had to go to my page and remove me. It felt like a slap in the face. I'm tempted to ask him why, but I'm practicing NC and plus, maybe he wants to get a reaction out of me and he may say something hurtful, so I'm pretending that I don't notice he defriended me. It really did hurt though.
melenkurion Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Luckily, he deleted himself from FB a few days after D-day. The one thing he did that I am grateful for.
fetish Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 i deleted my ex from facebook about a week and 1/2 after we broke up. I found out that she changed her relationship status to "single" and that felt like a knife to my heart and stomach @ the same time. It was only about 2-3 weeks before that she was talking about wedding recpeption halls and stuff for our wedding. I deleted her so i wouldn't be tempted to look @ her page and run across some messages that i really wouldnt have wanted to find out.
NG85 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Since this was my first break-up since FB became a big part of the world's collective lives, I was sort of lost on what to do. We're still FB friends, but I untagged myself from all photos of us together, and I blocked her from my newsfeed. I also put a block on her actual profile page. I never had any of her friends on my friends list, but about half her FB friends are my friends, and she never deleted them. So in essence I can't see what she's doing, but she can see what I'm doing.
carhill Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Perhaps bucking the trend and maybe a difference between MySpace and Facebook, my exW and I still have our respective pages up and our lists of mutual acquaintances remain relatively untouched. I merely removed a picture of her and I from one of our vacactions from the front page and changed my 'status' from married to divorced once the divorce was final. We don't 'hate' each other and we don't 'love' each other and still have polite discourse on occasion, much like I do with my other acquaintances on MS. We're both in our 50's, so maybe our focus on such things is different. The good memories from our M, partially shared on MS, are still valid and valuable. One datapoint
Call Me Al Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Did that the first day we split. Later, I deleted the handful of FB friends of hers that added me. She didnt delete any of my friends, to the best of my knowledge. Two of my really close friends deleted her the day we split.
flitzanu Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 why can't i get this treatment? i have an ex with nearly 30 of my friends still on her fb. seems the courteous thing to do would be to step out of my life right?
Layzie89 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 why can't i get this treatment? i have an ex with nearly 30 of my friends still on her fb. seems the courteous thing to do would be to step out of my life right? My ex and I shared about 30 mutual friends as well. Just deactivate your facebook. The friends who matter will still keep in touch with you, don't worry. 1
flitzanu Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 well, i'm not worried about THOSE 30 friends keeping up, its the other 400. i don't see why i should sacrifice my internet social life when i'd think it would be common courtesy for an ex to remove themselves from your life, right? that was more the question, the logistics of it...not a "solution". yes i can block, delete, etc. its the "why should i" of the whole thing.
Beeotch Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 (edited) Yepp...upon him getting his second rebound gf after not even 3 weeks before saying he wanted to work things out with me. I decided enough was enough. He was brazen, we didn't speak, he was broadcasting his life all over FB...I didn't need to see it and if we ever became real friends then he'd get added back. That was a year ago...never added him back and we're not friends now and it makes no difference as I am over him But then it was a great move so that I wouldn't be able to see his life and have it upset me. It did help with me moving forward. Edited March 16, 2011 by Beeotch
paiger Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Yes I did! I still thought about my ex every day though. But sometime's being ignorant of the matter is better than knowing your ex is doing fine without you (updating happy statuses that most likely are a front, but still, sucks.)
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