confusedTTF Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 My ex dumped me for no reason, he just ignored me and so I began no contact and dropped off of the planet like he did, after failed attempts to get through to him. I was no contact for 3 months. All of the sudden he began posting things on his Facebook about how sad his life was etc. I decided to start going on with my life and I posted something on my Facebook and then he started posting things on his Facebook that would only be known to him and I, and he used these posts to flirt with other girls on his page. I was so angry i broke no contact and responded myself. I was humiliated that I did this, but I was so angry that he was doing this without ever telling me why he dumped me after a year. The stuff he posted was really personal to us and one of the things i even told him myself! He ignored me after i commented and instead went on flirting with other girls on his page pretending I never posted any comment. Then he started posting pictures of places that we went together and tagging other girls in them. One of the places was very personal to us where we went all the time. It's almost like he's trying to make me jealous and I don't know why since he just decided to ignore me after a year and never responded to any of my attempts to a reconciliation. It's almost like he's angry with me because I dropped off the planet because he began this stuff once I came back on Facebook. I know he doesn't want to be with me but why does he have to rub it in or is it that he does want to see me again and he wants me to personally reach out to him. I just don't get it. I should also say that he had just come back from military duty when we met and he dealt with some issues from that when we first met but we got through it and everything was fine for us.
Author confusedTTF Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 The thing is I don't know what I want because he hurt me so much. After a year of being together and dealing with all his issues and working through them, we started really getting close toward the last 3 months of the relationship. As a matter of fact we were the closest we ever were before he started ignoring me. I tried a number of times to talk to him about what was going on and nothing. He went on with his life as if I was never in it. I do still love him, but I'm hurt. I realized that he didn't want me anymore so I tried to get over him. If he wants to work things out why can't he just contact me? He knows where I live, where I work, where I go and I never see or hear from him. All he is does is use his facebook page to make me jealous and I don't understand it. I wasn't really mean to him when I commented on his post I just answered something he said since I knew about it and he ignored me again and then posted these pictures of him at a place where we used to go on the weekends when we first met, and the way he did it he implied that I wasn't a part of it by showing all these other people in the pictures. It really hurts because we never had a fight or anything. Does it seem he wants me to reach out to him and is using jealousy as a way to do it?
coltsfan1 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 just delete him or hide his posts so that you don't see them. You will be better off, he broke up with you and he should break NC if he wants to talk with you, not try and manipulate your feelings.
Country_Girl Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 You didn't drop off the face of the planet if you both are still facebook friends. I suggest deleting him from friends to truly fall off the grid. Easier said then done, but then at least you won't have to second guess his messages/status. He won't be able to do that and get a reaction out of you if you are out of the picture.
Movingthrough Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 You didn't drop off the face of the planet if you both are still facebook friends First things first, facebook is the devil if you are in a breakup, delete them, there is no point to have them on there anyway. Second, i think you went NC without enough of the "answers" you wanted. A lot of people would disagree with me but its been so hard for you because you still have no idea what happened, in the long run NC is best, but its super hard when its lingering like you said. The fact that its been so long now and its still on your mind shows me that you need to figure out what happend at least for some peace in your self....but... Heres the problem though, if he is really doing this facebook stuff to piss you off (sounds like he is) thats really immature. Which means at this point saying anything else might not work, its been too long and this guy obviously is not the most mature out there. IMO, i would use his actions as an example of what you dont want in your life, why did he break up with you? Well...look at his actions, you went NC and he wanted you crawling back...but you didnt, thats good. So now hes pissed, come on, what a joke... You are lucky in some ways to have seen his behavior, that behavior is probably not a trait of what you want in your life...
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