Jaquain Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 I was with a bunch of friends one night and thought it would be funny to make a profile on a dating website. The dare was to talk to one person and then delete the account. Though I found myself enjoying the conversation and hung around instead. We've been talking every few days since since may last year. After a couple of months I decided it wasn't really going anywhere and stopped IM-ing her. Though out of the blue around november I got a message saying she thought she could genuinely like me. We kept talking and met up last weekend. The day went really well and I loved her company, she said she had a good time and all that. I had really high hopes, and a massive sense of euphoria. Two days later I recieved am email saying we needed to talk. Apparently in the december following the message she sent she got back together with her ex. She said she felt really guilty but they're having an 'open relationship' so we could still date if we wanted. I thought that would be weird but didn't say that, I said we could try it to see what happened. Since then things have been like they were, I'm just really confused how to think/feel about it. I really like her and I'm having trouble getting her out of my head. It's just so frustrating. I know she didn't technically do anything wrong but I felt so betrayed. I wouldn't have cared about her dating her ex, I just wish she'd told me. I knew they were hanging out a lot more and had my suspicions but I forced myself to believe she would have told me. I found myself looking for a small gift to give her next time we meet, that can't be normal. I mean she was leading me on I should be angry or something, but I can't help it. We haven't yet seen each other again, and she seems to want me to meet her ex. If it comes to that should I go? How should I feel about everything? Or am I just a pathetic overly-attached sucker? Any advice would be great. The saddest part is this is the least messed up relationship I've ever had.
Jack & Coke Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Cancel her. It's not going to be worth the heartache or headache, because no matter how "open" she says it is, she's still going to have an attachment to this guy. Still having sex with him, still going to have the same little hang ups that are part of the relationship territory. And the fact that she wasn't forthcoming with it from the beginning is a red flag in itself. The last thing you want to do is be a hanger on in this situation. Just chalk it up to a lesson learned and move on from her.
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