lance.dark Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 I got this girl's number this weekend but she goes to school (both in college) about 2 hours away from where I do. I would like to take her on a date, however, the opportunity for that is about four weeks away. Should I call her in a few days just to see how things are? Or text her (I really don't like texting when just meeting someone though)? I don't particularly want to be forgotten about so any advice would be great.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 ...I would like to take her on a date, however, the opportunity for that is about four weeks away. What's the opportunity you speak of?
Author lance.dark Posted March 13, 2011 Author Posted March 13, 2011 She'll be in my area for a school thing.
alphamale Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 I got this girl's number this weekend but she goes to school (both in college) about 2 hours away from where I do. I would like to take her on a date, however, the opportunity for that is about four weeks away. Should I call her in a few days just to see how things are? Or text her (I really don't like texting when just meeting someone though)? I don't particularly want to be forgotten about so any advice would be great. i think you can find someone closer to date
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 She'll be in my area for a school thing. I vote you sit on the number until maybe a week before the event for school. Give her a call and let her know you remembered she'll be in town for the event and let her know you'd like to show her a good time while she's local. I would stay away from something immediate. I think you're in great position.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Oh yeah. If she says yes, I would tell her something along the lines of "great, I'll be in touch a bit closer to when you'll be here with some options." That'll give you some time to do a little research and figure some good options out, and you also appear in control. Good luck.
Jack & Coke Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I don't think it'd hurt to give her a call. It never hurts to start putting in work early. Keep it light though, you two haven't spoken in person so there's no reason to get into anything serious for the time being. Make yourself known, and between the next few weeks that'll open the door for texting back and forth. It'll also give you guys time to figure out what to do what she's in town, while also building anticipation. Don't make her your #1 priority, but plant that seed and see how she takes it. If she's receptive and calls or texts you, just build up the meeting four weeks from now. Not saying you're planning some super terrific surprise getaway for her, but just kick some game and let her know that she would want to get together with you when the time comes. Nurture that seed but play it cool.
Art_Critic Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 i think you can find someone closer to date I'm with Alpha..
johan Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 I say call her. You could get lucky and have it go as well as it went for this guy: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t268725/
Author lance.dark Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 Hahahaha Johan, I think you linked the wrong post because I'm pretty sure she has no penis. I understand that it would make more sense to date people closer but this girl is actually someone I've been interested in for a while (there's a back story that I'd rather not post and is kind of irrelevant) and she will be around every weekend pretty much after the initial four weeks she won't be around. My question is more when should I call her? Should I wait until the week before like conflictedguy says or should I just wait until the end of this week? The only thing I'm clear on is that I should wait a little while.
alphamale Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 My question is more when should I call her? Should I wait until the week before like conflictedguy says or should I just wait until the end of this week? The only thing I'm clear on is that I should wait a little while. dude why do you want to drive 2 hrs to get laid? gas is like $4/gal
johan Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 My question is more when should I call her? Should I wait until the week before like conflictedguy says or should I just wait until the end of this week? The only thing I'm clear on is that I should wait a little while. If you want to talk to her, call her. Why wouldn't you call her tonight? If you're concerned she'll think you're "too interested" then keep the conversation short and kind of light. Just say hi. Keep the call to 15 minutes at most. Plant the seed.
Author lance.dark Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 Maybe I should also toss in that she knows I've been interested for a while.
blackmagik Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 dude why do you want to drive 2 hrs to get laid? gas is like $4/gal I agree with this. (25 mpg / ~120 miles (60mph * 2hrs)) = 4.8 gallons * $4 = 19.20 * 2 (round trip) = $38.40 just to see here. This isn't worth getting laid after a minimum of 4 visits.
Author lance.dark Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 1. I'm not after getting laid. I can get that on my campus. 2. I won't have to drive there since she will be coming fairly frequently to my area for school events (after the first 4 weeks).
Jack & Coke Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 If you want to talk to her, call her. Why wouldn't you call her tonight? If you're concerned she'll think you're "too interested" then keep the conversation short and kind of light. Just say hi. Keep the call to 15 minutes at most. Plant the seed. This. put your bid in.
Author lance.dark Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 OK so an update. I called her and left a very brief message. The following day she called me and we talked for ~30 minutes(I wasn't paying attention to the time). I suggested that we find a way for her to get back to her school after coming here on the school vans. She said this would be difficult and thinks it would be easier if we met halfway or I went to her school. This doesn't seem too ridiculous but is this an indicator that she's not interested? I don't understand why she would've called and talked for so long if she did not want to go out but it seems fishy that she has no interest in trying to find a way back to her school if she'd already be down here. Hmmm...
blackmagik Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I would say she has an interest if she was willing to meet halfway. Halfway is a good starting point anyway. Start there and see what happens.
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