irc333 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 I have a friend of mine, very jovial, personable, easy going and happy go lucky guy, I think a woman would be lucky to have him as a sig. other, not joking. He was saying that sometimes, in the course of the conversation he off-puts woman by apparently knowing too much about what they do, their profession, and what not. He would ask what she does for work, and she'd say something like, "I work on widgets for the ABC company in City,State <locally>" And he'd say, "Oh, hey, I know Bill Smith, he actually does accounting for those very widgets on a weekly basis, he's been with that widgets department for at least 10 years." And she said, "Yes, I work with him." And apparently she's taken aback about how he knows such things in great detail, and he somehow hits home with what she does, and probably knows her job as much as she does. lol Or, she'd mention a hobby she'd do, and where she likes go hiking or kayaking. She'd mention the name of the trail or something. "OH yes, that park reservation is co-owned by a cousin of mine who oversees the maintanence of the trial you hike on." Apparently, this has put women a bit off, because they're quite suprised he knows about what they do through a network of other obscure people. TMI? Yes or no? I mean, it's nothing PERSONAL, he's right on topic about what they do, but apparently, somehow has such great knowledge , indirectly, of what other people do for a living or for a hobby..
Cee Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 I think it's probably his delivery that puts women off. He presenting too much detailed info, too soon. He'd be better off if he did this... She: I work in X company He: Wow, I know somebody who works there. She: Really, who? or She: I ski at such and such a trail. He: I'm familiar with the area. My cousin is involved in the parkland there. She: Involved how? He's dumping too much information, which stops the conversation. He'd be better off communication stuff in little bits during the course of talking. It's more flirtatious and gives the man common ground to work with. That's my take on it. His delivery sounds more like he's in a networking seminar than at a cocktail party.
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