Is he deliberately trying to make me jealous

[BunnyGirl]

Hi I’m eighteen and my boyfriend is twenty-one we’ve been going out for a few months. Everything started fine, he was so nice to me. But now I think he’s deliberately trying to make me jealous or hurt me, I’m not sure or maybe he says things with realising the effect it has on me? I’ve never been the most confident person and am very insecure with what I look like (I‘m quite a curvy girl, I have big boobies and a big bum, I usually take a size twelve). However, he assures me I’m beautiful and that he would never go with a thin woman because he does not find it attractive. Anywho the jealously thing… he used to tell me a porn movie he got for himself (I don’t need to know this, I know it’s a normal thing for men, he also works on the boats you see so he explained that’s why he got it for which is understandable) he then goes on to tell me he likes to read Bizarre magazine, I could never look like the stunning women in there, I recall on one occasion while he was waiting for me he told me he looked through it while he was waiting for me and told me there was ‘nothing interesting in there’, why does he feel the need to tell me these things?

Sometimes I’ll catch him looking at other women, but I’ve watched him and he looks at everyone, although it still does slightly bother me partly because the women he does look at are rather unattractive and if he notices that I‘ve caught him looking he‘ll me! What the hell is that about?! Lastly (I will stop rambling soon) we were in a DVD and music shop ran by this one man (who was serving at the till) there was a picture of Catherine Jenkins on display (I personally don’t find her attractive or that pretty) but he had to point out that when he was in the army he went back stage at some thing he got to kiss her only on the cheek and that his ‘jaw dropped’ when he saw her and that he even ‘jokingly’ asked for her number. I have never felt so embarrassed and to make it worse after he’d said it he tried to kiss me! I did not kiss him! He realised he’d upset me and tried to make it better by saying she was patronising and when we got outside he hugged me and kept trying to kiss me, and telling me he loved me. It’s just I’m really tired of these stupid childish mind games, if I wanted them I would have dated a sixteen old! I just don’t know what he’s trying to do to me, I now lack even more confidence and am trying to lose weight. I know he is insecure with himself as he a larger man, which I like and have told him so. He has also sat watching me dress and said something about ‘going out with someone more attractive than himself’, I can’t fully remember all of it. I’m so tempted to finish it, because I feel so insecure, but when I’m with it seems to make up for everything, I really love him. But I just do not know what to do.

Sorry for the long rant

Thank you

[Datura]

If there are reasonable explanations for his behavior, ie his mentioning of the porn movie purchase (boats? I don't really understand...), he looks at other women yet he looks at everyone, and his immediate sympathetic reaction once he realized your feelings were hurt at the mention of a famous woman who he crossed paths with, it seems to me that your insecurities are getting the better of you.

 

Unless you can point out less vague examples that can't be taken out of context, claiming he is playing childish mind games is unfounded.