lolo1234 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 I swear I have to repeat this to myself a few times a day. Its been a month since me and the ex bf broke up. I have been trying NC but inevitably I will have a coupla drinks and bam! I go to text him. The last conversation I had with him was basically about him telling me that he's sure we aren't right for each other. I know its true but it still hurt to hear. I of course completely agreed with him. My rational mind KNOWS that he is not right for me. Why is breaking up so hard to do? Well I'll tell you what. I still have memories of those good times. And I wish we could go back to that. But I know we can never go back to that. That was one point in time at one point in our lives. We can never get that back. We are heading in very different directions. The fantasy is losing its grip on me. I know what I have to do to move on. I just remind myself that I've been through a month already, and I see how I've gotten better in just that short amount of time. I know I need to stay away from him. I am going to start NC and I am going to start taking care of myself (which includes avoiding alcohol).
Movingthrough Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Why is breaking up so hard to do? Million dollar question right here. I just posted this in another thread but the simpliest way to answer this is by what someone told me once a few months ago. When you think of love and the feelings that come with it, they are strong and they feel good. Its a feeling we all search for in our lives and to be honest, we are lucky when we get it even if it doesnt work out in the end. When you have a feeling like that, an emotion that is so strong, its like a drug, there is no way it is going to go away quickly. If it could go away quickly...then what would be the point of it? Its hard to let go of because if it wasnt it wouldnt be love, it would be something you forgot about in a few days, which in turn would almost make it a joke. It comes on strong, and leaves strong, thats why they say times heals it. It hits a point where your brain just says "Well, i get the point." You will get better trust me we all have. You just have to know that if it was easy to deal with then you never would have had all those good feelings that came with it. Falling in love can be a risk...
UniformLover Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Why is it over? No matter how many times you ask you wont like the answer. You may try to explain it away or change it some way in your mind. The healthiest thing to do is realize it's time to close that door. "Ya know so another door can open" Here are a few tips I use to get over a relationship. 1. When I drink I give my best girlfriend my phone so I am not tempted to text or call him. 2. When I lay in my bed each night I turn off my phone till I wake up in the AM. 3. I spend more time with my friends and family and try to stay busy. 4. Get back to the things that really make me happy. 5. Work out at the gym ( it can really take the edge off) 6. Stop listening to songs that remind me of him. Only girl power songs allowed! 7. Remove him from my face book, twitter, message and when your ready your cell phone. I hope my list helps Oh P.S. After my last breakup I couldn't sleep. I got new sheets and one of those Sleep Sound Therapy systems it really made a difference.
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