nowwhatnow Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 i called a guy and asked if he wanted to hang out and he said he did but then never called me back. what does this mean?? why would he say yes and then not call?
ReturnToSender Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Seems to me that just as you suspect, hes not interested. He may have said yes to hold you off, and cause its easier on him than having to talk about why not...but his actions are saying no. Oh, and by "never called you back" how long has it been? a day? a week? a month or two? If its only bee a few days, then I woudlnt give up and jump to conclusions so quickly, he may still get back to you. If its been a few weeks or a few months then yeah, dont even think about this guy anymore.
East7 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Actions always speak louder than words at that applies in dating too.
Author nowwhatnow Posted March 13, 2011 Author Posted March 13, 2011 it was a couple days ago but he said he was going to call me that night and did not. i guess there is no use in calling to make definite plans? its just this is the first guy ive liked in a while so its hard to give up so quickly
Kamille Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Raise hand: Ooh ooh I know the answer to this one: It means he's flattered, thinks you're cute, but is likely pursuing other interests at the moment.
Kamille Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 i guess there is no use in calling to make definite plans? its just this is the first guy ive liked in a while so its hard to give up so quickly You could call him back to set plans, but then after the one date, I would suggest you leave the ball in his court.
ReturnToSender Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 You could call him back to set plans, but then after the one date, I would suggest you leave the ball in his court. Yeah, I would totally leave the ball in his court....esp since its only been a couple of days. He said he would call, give him a chance to do that. My personality type is...once a week has passed, no matter how much I initially liked him Im not even thinking about him anymore, and if he ever happens to call in the future, Im up for picking up where we left off cause hey, who knows what happened and were not invested enough for me to grill him on his whereabouts, granted he doesnt do that to me again...and if he does I block him. But I woudlnt fault you for contacting him in a few more days if you dont hear from him first to see whats up...if hes hesitant or blows you off, then that puts an end to your wondering. Or maybe itll turn out to be great. But I wouldnt stress after 2 days, even if he did say hed call that nite. Dont let it get to you yet.
Author nowwhatnow Posted March 13, 2011 Author Posted March 13, 2011 alright thanks guys! i appreciate the advice. if i run into him on campus or something perhaps ill bring up hanging out and see what the deal is new ideas are always welcome
somedude81 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Did nobody else catch this? She called him to ask if he wanted to hang out. He said sure. Now she wants him to call her and make the plans. Doesn't that seem a little odd?
runner Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 not really. some girls like handing things over to the guy for specifics on day/time. actually, i'm leaning toward 'most' not 'some'
ReturnToSender Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Did nobody else catch this? She called him to ask if he wanted to hang out. He said sure. Now she wants him to call her and make the plans. Doesn't that seem a little odd? I dont see where she said that? What I got is that she asked him if he wanted to hang out, he said yes and that he would call her back that nite. He didnt do as he said he would and her call back, so they didnt get the chance to confirm any plans together. She asked why he would say yes, tell her hed call her back presumably to talk about it, and then didnt. I didnt see where she said she wants him to make the plans.
somedude81 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Eh, I didn't read any of her fallow up posts. Whatever.
ReturnToSender Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Youre so confusing...lol Thats why I was wondering why you asked if anyone caught that about her saying she wants him to make the plans and where you saw that...cause I didnt catch that part. Ah well...no biggie.
Author nowwhatnow Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 ya it was that he did not call back that night when he said he would... so what is the consensus??
Author nowwhatnow Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 i go out of my way to talk to him and stuff and he is just so clueless! i dont know what to do - i dont think he realizes i like him and i do not know how to tell him in a way that will not be awkward cuz i am not sure if he likes me. please help!
Kamille Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 i go out of my way to talk to him and stuff and he is just so clueless! i dont know what to do - i dont think he realizes i like him and i do not know how to tell him in a way that will not be awkward cuz i am not sure if he likes me. please help! How clueless can a guy be? He knows you want to hang out right? What little I know of male psychology is this: if he was interested in more than friendship with you, the invitation wouldn't have fallen on deaf ears. Or am I missing something?
810 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 How clueless can a guy be? He knows you want to hang out right? What little I know of male psychology is this: if he was interested in more than friendship with you, the invitation wouldn't have fallen on deaf ears. Or am I missing something? I agree with Kamille. OP, If a guy is interested in you, he would definitely pick up on the invitation and a) make plans right there and then; or b) call you back on the day he said he would and make plans. if a guy is interested, you'll know, he will not let his chance passes him by. it doesn't matter if you like him or he realizes if you like him, guys are not that clueless. It's all boil down to whether or not he likes you. I say if you like to pursue him, call him again and ask how he's been doing and if he has plans for the weekend. His answer will tell you if he likes you or he's interested but putting you on the back burner right now.
Author nowwhatnow Posted March 17, 2011 Author Posted March 17, 2011 i invited him over for a dinner party and he is out of town this weekend but he said we should hang out when he gets back
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